Your Opinion
So; my mother babysat for us on Sat night; SD13 takes over after kids are in bed; grama left about 11ish or so. SD13 is already having 2 girls sleepover - she asks if the boy from across the street can come in and play Wii - (mind you this boy is in love with my SD) grama says no! She then leaves or drives around the block and comes back; asks who's in the house - she lies and says no one - meanwhile he's in the house. So grama gets mad and tells him to leave now; so she leaves again.... Meanwhile SD is txting Daddy to ask if boy can come over!!!!!!
He says YES!!! can you believe it.
so I then tell him what SD just did to my mom and he says "Oh well; she asked me and I said yes your mom is overreacting."
OMG - is this real?!?!?!? After she was told no and she's only 13 with no adult supervision; am I crazy or...............
No you are not crazy. If I
No you are not crazy. If I was your mom, I would never babysit again. She is manipulating her father and he is too dense to see it. Ask him what his plan is for raising future gandkids, when she ends up pregnant because he doesn't realize how inappropriate this is. Slippery slope.
In our house the punishment
In our house the punishment increases exponentially if one adult said no and the child goes to another adult hoping for a better answer. It doesn't matter if the second adult agrees with the first one or not. The issue is the shopping around for permission and not respecting the word of the first person they asked.
My dh would have stopped
My dh would have stopped right then and called HIS kid back and asked "did gamma tell you no?" If they lie they are in more trouble, but if not and they say yes, he will tell them that SHE is in charge while we are not there WHY would you call me for anything??? They would be in trouble!
So sorry about what your dh did that was wrong and sending the wrong mess to sd!
Heres the thing dh was not in charge of the kids at that time gamma was and that is how you need to tell your dh. We left gamma in charge while we were gone why would sd call you for anything?
I agree Earthshaker - and
I agree Earthshaker - and that is my reply Always - What did your father say?? and that is how it should be. I am not sure what his thought process is; but nothing seems to matter; he says I am overreacting on everything (and I am sure I am on some things - I am just sick of this all; I don't have nething left)
It is sad that a child can do this- Better yet; we allow children to do this to a family. I used to be like this when I was younger, I think it is easier for me to see the game then it is my hubby...
Thank you very much for your thoughts.......