I'll give you one that shocked the hell out of me:
Last year SD14 said something to her girlfriend about something she'd seen on TV. Something called a "friend with benefits". She said "are we friends with benefits?"
I was with them and BM in the car at the time and I said "no honey y'all ARE NOT friends with benefits and you shouldn't say that in public. People might get the wrong idea."
So neither of them knew what the hell a friend with benefits was. The other girl asks and I compose myself and say "well it's a friend who you don't have any real attachment to, not like they're a boyfriend, and you might date someone else, but sometimes you make out with them or whatever. It's not a good thing..."
Then SD14's little friend has this light of understanding in her eyes and sits back in her seat and says (no kidding) "Oh, you mean a fuck buddy."
I thought my head was going to come right off my body.
How these kids pick this shit up I have no idea...
Yep, and combine that with booty-shaking stripper pole dancing and you've got yourself one volatile situation. SD is 5 and more "advanced in wordly knowledge" than my pre-teens!
Oh God yes I was on a cruise with the GF last month and the dancing that was going on made me SICK. And I'm no prude but good God it's a public place. And worse, I got into a fight with GF when she told me she used to dance to a certain rap song that was playing at the time, and the chorus line was "skeet skeet skeet" (if you don't know what that means look it up), and talked about sweat running down his balls (sorry, that's gross but it's the actual line) and how he was going to do something (you can guess) on someone's face. Maybe it's because I'm getting old (42) but no girl I'm with is EVER going to be on a dancefloor when that kind of music is playing. That tells everyone in the crowd you're a skank and you're okay with that behavior. Might as well have a sign over your head that says "take me home and use me for dirty sex. I'm easy".
I'd get ahold of that 5 year old and set her straight and on top of that I'd tell whoever mentioned humping to her that you are going to claw out their eyeballs if you ever hear anything like that again.
P.S. some 5 year olds I know also know what that means and I've had students in the past come into my classroom saying that and I had to kindly explain that they needed to leave that word at home. Sometimes "humping" and "skeet skeet skeet" were what I would hear on a GOOD day. Mostly their parents listen to that music, and then I bring it up and they're like, "Oh for real, they've been saying that?" Um, yeah, when you listen to something repeatedly, it tends to get stuck in your head. It's called an "earworm." And it's the same song all day long, so about 10-15 times/day, I'm saying, "Leave it at home." I'm lucky that right now the worst I get is Justin Bieber. Unfortunately, last year I had a child in my class who had been molested by her mom's bf (who, by the way, only dumped him for it when her family threatened to call Child Protective Services on her and she'd already completely lost custody of her other child to the birth father). She knew stuff that was, like, beyond general knowledge base for most children who aren't in their late teens. Guess who exposed the other kids to it, too. People just talk and assume their kids aren't listening to them. So dumb.
I found out last year that BM had showed the girls graphic sex books so that they could fully understand where babies come from, since they didn't actually understand what she was saying she had to show them. They were 6, 8, and 9, :jawdrop: needless to say I wanted to throw up. I always wondered why SD at the time 12 had graphic writings about sex, and even about her step uncle...sick. I don't know why people can't just let kids be kids and try to protect their innocence, it's sad really.
Nope, she picked it up at home...she told me exactly what happened and its a matter of BM not being concerned with what's going on under her roof, once again. I'm not at all surprised....just expected it a couple of years down the road.
my exsd (now 11 almost 12) has always been an overly sexual child. i met her when she was 6, and could already tell from day one something wasnt right with her. she insisted on wearing makeup and nailpolish, short skirts and hooker-style boots. her father (my ex) and her gma allowed it, saying they were allowing her to be 'girly'. when he and i got a house together, i was unpacking exsd's room and opened up her notebook, and the word 'sex' was written on like 10 ages. when i brought it up to my ex, he said she had that notebook for a long time now. gross, a child younger than 6 writing sex all over a notebook.
she was always tickling her daddy (and saying it made her feel 'weird but good') and hanging all over him, kissing his forehead and stuff. he was so creeped out by it. early in the relationship, he confided to me that he was afraid she had been sexually abused while in foster care the year before. her acts were just too advanced for her age.
its sad, but the songs these kids listen to, the celbrities they idolize, all look like sluts. even the disney stars. its everywhere.
Well, BM had the cahones to "advise" me that SD5 shouldn't be hanging around my tween girls because she's afraid they might be influencing her...needless to say, I BLEW my top!!!!!! THEY might be influencing HER! Yeah, the same way that Michelle Duggar is influencing Lindsey Lohan!
I'll give you one that
I'll give you one that shocked the hell out of me:
Last year SD14 said something to her girlfriend about something she'd seen on TV. Something called a "friend with benefits". She said "are we friends with benefits?"
I was with them and BM in the car at the time and I said "no honey y'all ARE NOT friends with benefits and you shouldn't say that in public. People might get the wrong idea."
So neither of them knew what the hell a friend with benefits was. The other girl asks and I compose myself and say "well it's a friend who you don't have any real attachment to, not like they're a boyfriend, and you might date someone else, but sometimes you make out with them or whatever. It's not a good thing..."
Then SD14's little friend has this light of understanding in her eyes and sits back in her seat and says (no kidding) "Oh, you mean a fuck buddy."
I thought my head was going to come right off my body.
How these kids pick this shit up I have no idea...
Yep, and combine that with
Yep, and combine that with booty-shaking stripper pole dancing and you've got yourself one volatile situation. SD is 5 and more "advanced in wordly knowledge" than my pre-teens!
Oh God yes I was on a cruise
Oh God yes I was on a cruise with the GF last month and the dancing that was going on made me SICK. And I'm no prude but good God it's a public place. And worse, I got into a fight with GF when she told me she used to dance to a certain rap song that was playing at the time, and the chorus line was "skeet skeet skeet" (if you don't know what that means look it up), and talked about sweat running down his balls (sorry, that's gross but it's the actual line) and how he was going to do something (you can guess) on someone's face. Maybe it's because I'm getting old (42) but no girl I'm with is EVER going to be on a dancefloor when that kind of music is playing. That tells everyone in the crowd you're a skank and you're okay with that behavior. Might as well have a sign over your head that says "take me home and use me for dirty sex. I'm easy".
I'd get ahold of that 5 year old and set her straight and on top of that I'd tell whoever mentioned humping to her that you are going to claw out their eyeballs if you ever hear anything like that again.
Ah ha ha ha ha! Awww skeet
Ah ha ha ha ha! Awww skeet skeet skeet skeet! I know EXACTLY which song you're talking about!
P.S. some 5 year olds I know
P.S. some 5 year olds I know also know what that means and I've had students in the past come into my classroom saying that and I had to kindly explain that they needed to leave that word at home. Sometimes "humping" and "skeet skeet skeet" were what I would hear on a GOOD day. Mostly their parents listen to that music, and then I bring it up and they're like, "Oh for real, they've been saying that?" Um, yeah, when you listen to something repeatedly, it tends to get stuck in your head. It's called an "earworm." And it's the same song all day long, so about 10-15 times/day, I'm saying, "Leave it at home." I'm lucky that right now the worst I get is Justin Bieber. Unfortunately, last year I had a child in my class who had been molested by her mom's bf (who, by the way, only dumped him for it when her family threatened to call Child Protective Services on her and she'd already completely lost custody of her other child to the birth father). She knew stuff that was, like, beyond general knowledge base for most children who aren't in their late teens. Guess who exposed the other kids to it, too. People just talk and assume their kids aren't listening to them. So dumb.
I found out last year that BM
I found out last year that BM had showed the girls graphic sex books so that they could fully understand where babies come from, since they didn't actually understand what she was saying she had to show them. They were 6, 8, and 9, :jawdrop: needless to say I wanted to throw up. I always wondered why SD at the time 12 had graphic writings about sex, and even about her step uncle...sick. I don't know why people can't just let kids be kids and try to protect their innocence, it's sad really.
That's insane....where is the
That's insane....where is the maternal instinct?
Nope, she picked it up at
Nope, she picked it up at home...she told me exactly what happened and its a matter of BM not being concerned with what's going on under her roof, once again. I'm not at all surprised....just expected it a couple of years down the road.
my exsd (now 11 almost 12)
my exsd (now 11 almost 12) has always been an overly sexual child. i met her when she was 6, and could already tell from day one something wasnt right with her. she insisted on wearing makeup and nailpolish, short skirts and hooker-style boots. her father (my ex) and her gma allowed it, saying they were allowing her to be 'girly'. when he and i got a house together, i was unpacking exsd's room and opened up her notebook, and the word 'sex' was written on like 10 ages. when i brought it up to my ex, he said she had that notebook for a long time now. gross, a child younger than 6 writing sex all over a notebook.
she was always tickling her daddy (and saying it made her feel 'weird but good') and hanging all over him, kissing his forehead and stuff. he was so creeped out by it. early in the relationship, he confided to me that he was afraid she had been sexually abused while in foster care the year before. her acts were just too advanced for her age.
its sad, but the songs these kids listen to, the celbrities they idolize, all look like sluts. even the disney stars. its everywhere.
Well, BM had the cahones to
Well, BM had the cahones to "advise" me that SD5 shouldn't be hanging around my tween girls because she's afraid they might be influencing her...needless to say, I BLEW my top!!!!!! THEY might be influencing HER! Yeah, the same way that Michelle Duggar is influencing Lindsey Lohan!