I feel like my husband married me to be a nanny to his child and to be a maid to them both! He just leaves him with me all the time while he is working (and serving as a volunteer on committees, etc.) Doesn't even ask if I have plans or something to do, just leaves him in my care constantly and just "expects" me to always be there when he gets home from school, etc. He just takes for granted that I am doing ALL the care for a child that is NOT mine and that he didn't even want to have! For example, neither of his parents have even cut his toenails for over a year, I do it all! If I don't, no one will! I swear that the child's father (my husband) just didn't want to pay someone he's ashamed he ever slept with almost $1000 a month so he got custody. The BM just uses the child as a pawn.

After marrying me, we went through an ugly custody battle and won primary physical custody. The BM is absolutely mental(not diagnosed) but severely (even criminally) jealous and psycho. So now I have HER child in my care 90% of the time and her "baby daddy" money is no longer coming in so she's pretty pissed to put it mildly.

They barely dated and she "accidentally" got pregnant. He wanted her to have an abortion but she wouldn't, so then he set up adoption through his church (Catholic-can you say hypocrite?) but then she had a baby shower as if it was all planned all along and kept the child. He paid a huge amount of child support to her for 5 years while she sat around and plotted to destroy any relationship my husband had.

She makes my life HELL on Earth. I've tried counseling, anxiety meds, you name it. I am tired of looking over my shoulder (documented physical threats have been made numerous times) and I am even more tired of our money (I work FT too!) being drained in legal issues. I just found out he promised about all of our tax refund to his atty for owed fees without even consulting me first.

My stepson is truly a wonderful child and I love him as much as I can and I know that I may be his only hope but still no matter what, he is not my child, period.

We dated for a year, now married over two years. I went from NO kids for 36 yrs to two overnight as my husband and I have our own baby (21 mos) together. That baby is the only reason I breathe every breath, he is my life!

Our baby is the only thing keeping me here. I dread the thought of him going back and forth and only want what is best for him. We fight all the time and I hate for the children to witness it. Please help, when is it time to regain my sanity/safety and leave this situation? I am so tired of it all!

Do I love my husband? Yes but maybe not enough.
Do I trust him? No