I think I've jsut about had it.

I'm a step-dad to ss17 who I've raised full time since he was 7. His BD is close to being a deadbeat but stays in SS17 life over phone and ocasional visits. SS17 and I never really connected but I've raised and provided for him his whole life.

We've been supporting his high school football even though he's been riding the bench for 4 years, he still wants to do it. On senior night they finally let him play and he got hit real hard and we found out later the trainer believe he may have got a concussion. so they wouldn't let him drive home that night.

The next day he got up and went to work when he came home he was looking a little confused and dizzy, but was planning to go drive to his girlfriends house, he kept telling his mom he's fine. I told his mom, you need to tell him to stay home and rest, he's obviously not fine. He always talks to his mom like a jerk and kept saying to her "I'm fine." So...that's where I have to step in.

I calmly say to him "who's responsible for you?" He turns and looks at me with this evil face and says "Why are you talking to me like this?" I explain to him that he can't just go make the decision to go do anythign he wants when he's our responsibility. Well he starts a fight with me now saying "y'all can't just yell at me like this" and then eventually said the one thing that blows me over the top: "I'm going to call my dad and he'll fix this."

Now this is a kid that has a cushion situation at home, he comes and goes as he wants, doesn't have many choses, has a cell phone, wifi, cable tv in his room all provided by me, not his mom or his dad. This is not the first time he's challenged me, so it's not the concussion, he is just that spoiled and thinks so highly of himself that he knows everything. He actually said to us it's against the law to yell at kids if they didn't do anything wrong! Then started telling me I'm a terrible parent and I'm acting like a kid. I'm the most responsible parent in his life, his dad is his buddy, his dad goes against any our or decision if his wins points with his son.

How do you keep decipline in a house when you have the other side covering for him like this. His BM is afraid of him I think. She's so naive and timid that she avoids confrontation, thats why during his trantrum of telling me off, my wife would not stand up and defend me and say "You have no right to talk to the man that has provided for us for 10 years."

I want to slam dunk this kid now with punishments by dropping all the extra things I'm providing for him. BUut my wife doesn't want to do that, that would totally kill him.....he would proabably run away because he feel he does nothing wrong. But, He will be out the house soon to go to college he thinks, I could just wait this out, but I feel like a chump in my own home.

I've given 10 years of my life to raise someone else's kid, and this is what I get at the end.