violation of court orders
I am doing this on my phone, so apologies that it isn't in the legal forum, general was easier.
Looking for input on at what point do you consider violations serious enough to go back to court? BM has been in the habit lately of picking sks up from school not on her time, and not telling DH until hours later (when they should be at their after school program) and will not ever return his calls until she deems fit to bring them home. They live with DH and I and see her EOWE, and she lives out of state. This is causing them to miss activities and clubs that they are members of, not to mention the simple not knowing where they are for hours on end.
there has been a lot of trivial things like money violations, or not sending certified letters of relocation, not meeting with counselors, and such, but it is things like this that make life super stressful and hard on the kids.
Just looking for other's opinions on what is legit violations to go to court over.
i think it is a legit reason.
i think it is a legit reason. I'd be terrified if my children weren't where I thought they were.
In fact, you may be able to stop it at the school. Bring the school a copy of the CO. Could that help?
Thanks all- I do want to
Thanks all- I do want to clarify some things. She has joint legal custody per the order, but does live outside of state.
The school will not stop her bc the CO states that she has joint legal. The CO does specifically outline her visitation times, however.
The cops will not do anything until it is more than 24 hours without hearing from her- since she texts or calls dh and simply says "i have them" and hangs up- bc she has joint legal- the cops tell us that we have to wait to do anything. She always returns them within a day. UNLESS it is the day where her visitation is to start (say she starts at 8pm that night, but picks them up at 3) The police won't do anything until she is late returning them, by more than 24 hours.
It is ridiculous. It is a fine line, and you are right about the courts-- why I am asking for input. There is A LOT of random violations, but we don't want to go crying every time something happens. We are keeping detailed notes, and have an atty on retainer, who suggests waiting longer until we have more solid. Simply bc the next step in our progression is requesting of legal rights to be changed.... it has been a many year in and out of court process.
I think I was posting just because so much goes wrong, and there is so much crap, that we often lose sight of what is a big deal or not... there is just so much. I even had to remind DH once that making a child bleed (her other child) from discipline isnt normal. You just kind of get in a haze when dealing with someone like this. Thanks for the input all