Starting to feel sorry for SS
I had two family bday parties this sat and somehow was volunteered to take SS8.Both parties were for 7 year old so no biggie. It was awful! I was so embarrassed by him and his behavior. A little background. We have SS8 2 nights a week till 7 then more on school breaks. I have always thought there was something off about his. he is an extremely large kid 110lbs and seem to be very behind. BS says he is advanced and does well. DH is just oblivious and thinks " oh he is just a baby" hmm ok. Well after being around like 30 6 and 7 yr olds at these parties it is shocking he has not been tested for something. during a craft he was supposed to put his name on he put an X a mother at the party tried to help him spell his name he screamed that is my name and took of into another room crying. Then while wrestling with another boy half his size he got knocked down and cried bloody murder for 15 min before screaming in his face. he doesn't make eye contact with the other kids and none of them didn't seem to understand most of what he says and just avoided him. I told DH he needs to speak with BM coddling him is not helping. he threw so many tantrums at one point my sister was like he is seriously mentally slow and his parents need to help him. DH says BM thinks he is just a sensitive kid and refuses to believe there is something wrong. I said well I cant take him alone anymore. BM calls DH and says SS was upset everyone was mean to him?? WTF
Im so pissed no one was mean
Im so pissed no one was mean to him at all. I tried to get him to engage with the other kids and he would just go off on his own. Even other parents tried talking to and being friendly with him. He is really hard to engage with. uugh I shouldn't even let it bother me but I feel like I tried doing something nice figuring he would have fun and now im the a-hole. Of course.
he will make eye contact
he will make eye contact periodically but will advert his eyes to something else. he has very bratty behavior because BM treats him like a baby and give him what he wants. She thinks because he is good at video games that means he is smart. We know he is in some special classes but DH doesn't talk to the teacher his school is an hr away from us.
I thought as he got older it
I thought as he got older it is just he is a brat but after seeing him interact with so many other kids his age you can see something is very different. his maturity is like that of a 3 year old.
Get this kid tested. There is
Get this kid tested. There is no help for him until it is determined what his issues are.
I struggle with tolerating this kind of behavior from a kid. Particularly a kid older than toddler age. We have several friends with kids on the Autism scale. I find that as is the case of parents with kids in the "normal" range those who establish and enforce boundaries have far better behaved kids than those who go with the tolerate the bullshit model.
Regardless of if DH and BM get this kid tested he needs very established behavioral boundaries in your presence. I have had to establish this expectation with the Autistic kids of our friends and our friends are always amazed at how calm and well behaved their kids are when I am around.
Give it a try. I just may help.
He sounds like he may be on
He sounds like he may be on the autism spectrum. What seems like brat behavior can be sensory overload. The eye contact is a big thing and avoiding others. My son is only 2,but he has been diagnosed and doesn't know how to play with kids his age. He will end up pushing and yelling if they aren't doing things how he wants them to be. It shouldn't be ignored. Did he have delays in speech?
DH isn't involved in his
DH isn't involved in his school because it is an hour away???? What kind of bullshit excuse is that????? How in the world can you respect a man like that?
They don't think there is
They don't think there is anything really wrong. dh thinks he is just on the babyish side and a really sensitive kid. He isn't not involved with school because it is an hr away. He has met the teacher and help with school work when he is with us. But doesn't deal with it daily.