SS8 seriously makes my stomach turn
2 days ago I reached into my laundry basket and almost right where i put one of my hands was his shit filled underpants, and i mean CAKED on....yesterday he apparently got dressed without underpants on in a pair of light grey sweatpants...last night he was walking by me and i noticed STAINS on the outside of his pants....i told him to go change them, dad was upstairs and asked what he was doing, he said that i told him to change his pants...i went upstairs to tell dad that his pants were shitstained on the outside of the pants.....he pulls them down and OMG the amount of SHIT on the inside of these pants was indescribable!!! Even dad was disgusted and took him into the bathroom and cleaned his dirty ass... I thouoght i would vomit, I had to leave the room!!!
ss8 is becoming more and more overweight by the day....i try to monitor his food intake, but i'm certain he sneaks food when i'm not paying attention. he shovels food into his mouth like he hasn't eaten in a month. I have to literally leave the room when the kid eats....when he sits down he has manboobs and belly rolls and his big belly hangs over his pants and because of how low he has to wear his pants to accommodate his belly, his asscrack is always hanging out!!! Dad has to bathe him because I literally am too disgusted to do it....
Sorry I just had to vent this, the kid absolutely turns my stomach in EVERY way!!!!!
As far as the food issues,
As far as the food issues, I'm assuming he thinks he's STARVING all the time because he's on risperdal for behavior meltdowns (autism) and it tends to cause increased appetite. However, when I took him back to his pediatrician last month due to his exorbinant weight gain, she looked through his records and indicated that his excessive weight gain started BEFORE he ever started on these meds, so she doesn't think the meds are the cause. He's got a ton of sensory issues, so my guess is that food is a sensory pleasure source for him. Which means he's probably going to end up obese regardless of what we try to do to curb it.
How stressed out is this kid?
How stressed out is this kid? What's his age? When you said he shovels food in, my first thought was, this kid is self medicating. I know I'm not a doctor but it doesn't take one to see this. Heavy adults do the same thing. He's trying to plug up some sort of negative emotions. Is he in counseling for anything?
ss8 has autism, TONS of
ss8 has autism, TONS of sensory issues...i think food makes him feel good, like it does for many of us. but it's my job as his parent to not allow him to overeat. he's got polycystic kidney disease also, which won't likely cause him any issues until he's older, but obesity will be a HUGE problem for the kidneys as he ages, so i've got to try to curb it now by teaching him healthy habits and not to overeat.
I think the stress comes from
I think the stress comes from his autism. He is a 'stimmer' which he does to make himself feel good. he does it all the time, and unfortunately the school as well as I have been noticing him doing it a lot more lately. He has a behavior therapist, an occupational therapist and a physical therapist. Who knows, maybe he needs a general 'counselor' to go to. I'm not sure he understands what causes him stress like other kids might, i'm not sure??? Nobody has suggested a general counselor, but maybe i should be talking ot the beh. therapist about a referral for it?
I have an 8 yr old with a
I have an 8 yr old with a mild form of autism they understand what bothers them they just either can not communicate it or the link between what it is and how to express it can't be breached yet but I think this kid has enough problems without a resentful sm maybe he should just have day visits with u guys and let his mother take care of him
bio mom's an IV drug user,
bio mom's an IV drug user, i'm quite certain SS8 is FAR better off in my house than hers!!!!!
What is in the house for him
What is in the house for him to eat? My SS is a sugar hound. He can sniff out a cookie a mile away, and if he finds a stash, he will hide and eat them all. Neither one of his parents seem to care but it drives me mad.
Simple solution, I don't buy anything. I don't have to say no when he asks for junk food, I simply say, we don't seem to have any - I will look into it on the next grocery trip.
Things I simply don't buy:
soda, juice, cookies, cake, icecream, chips
I have a fruit basket - it has 3 tiers and always has fruit in it. I also buy yogurt. Yes, that means everyone does without - but seriously, how bad is that really? When DH grumps about no junk food I give the same canned answer, oh? ok - I will put it on the list. NOT
When junk food makes it way into the house - its not possible to keep it out 100% - its consumed at a rate that appears SS is on fast forward - he literally shoves it in like you say with both hands and gulps - I actually have to leave because I can't stand to watch it. SS6 is not overweight, yet, he is certainly not underweight either - when DH picks him up from BM - he will have a bag of candy in his hand or a ziplock with 6 cookies in it. We have him 50% of the time so its a semi-losing battle. But I will not have him load up on crap at my house.
I found it was just simpler not to have it in the house. I didn't have to be the bad guy in saying no and really, SS6 can tear through the pantry, it doesn't matter - there is no junk food to be consumed.
I do not starve him before people go off on this. There is lots of food. Just not junk food. Same goes for the other 3 kids in this house. We all pay the price for SS6 having no self control and no parent that cares.
Yep, same in my house. SD
Yep, same in my house. SD couldn't control herself and would sneak junk food, so now I don't buy junk food. I don't ever by chips, cookies, snack cakes, or candy. Their holiday candy is rationed out, one piece a day.
They have a plethora of healthy snacks, and any junk they consume is one a one time basis (ie they can choose a single size serving of something at a gas station). Dh buys them junk constantly (slurpees and donuts at every gas station fill up) so I don't feel bad about not keeping it at the house.
Have you thought of a special
Have you thought of a special needs support group? They can be great help I mean really awesome and I do have snack in my house but I put them in my walk in closet that I put a lock on and I hand out what I want to them all that's in the kitchen is things to prepare a meal with so unless they want to sneak a can of corn they have no control over the food I also fix the plates for dinner I have a problem with ex hubby and sm giving my kids red dyes and sugar and coke and last weekend found out they gave my 10 yr old coffee every morning and evening ... I mean who does that? Nuts IMHO