Clothes....what do you think??
Ok, when my Skids became teenagers my husband set certain rules for what the skids wear. He was 2 girls (13 and 17). One rule is their shirts have to be a certain length. No short shorts or skirts.
But here is the thing, SD13 has gone from a size 10 to 14 in a few months. Shes not fat, a little chubby but she is getting a big ass. So anyway the pants she wears are so tight that it looks like she peels them on and they ride so far up her ass. I think it looks totally inappropriate for a 13yr old to wear pants so tight. When I brought it to his attention he says "thats just the way they fit"...ummm how about a BIGGER size. Her pants look awful when they are that far up her ass. And she walks around like she thinks it looks so sexy.
Am I wrong to think that having her pants ride that far up her ass and that tight isn't right?? There is nothing sexy about it...she is 13!! We never had this problem with SD17.
Not to mention, her pants are so tight it makes her look fat. Her belly hangs over the top and sides
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gross, no i wouldn't allow
gross, no i wouldn't allow that either
We will buy her clothes if
We will buy her clothes if she needs them but I have to secretly go into her room when she is at school because she will wear stuff that is too small. She won't get rid of them, so I do.
my SD is a little thick too.
my SD is a little thick too. Her jeans are tight, but i try not to say anything. I got my head bit off once for saying that she shouldn't wear tank tops unless she has a proper bra-- her straps were always showing. Apparently its cool now to show off underware. She also walks around with too much cleavage showing. Again, I'm not allowed to comment.
So yes, I'd agree with you. For some reason, not all parents find this issue pressing enough to address.
Well I'm not saying anything
Well I'm not saying anything anymore. I just think it is so inappropriate for her pants to ride so far up her butt. And then for DH to say "well thats just how they fit". I wish her pants would split right up the butt in front of everyone at school, maybe then she would learn.
My relationship is far from
My relationship is far from good with SD17. She thinks they should be able to do and dress how they want. I am the wicked witch of the west!! I am not saying anything about it anymore. I am so tired of hearing stupid shit from DH. It is seriously time to disengage...and I am really going to!!
"Sexy" and 13 shouldn't be in
"Sexy" and 13 shouldn't be in the same sentence IMHO. I'm sorta surprised that a dad is okay with his little girl dressing like a sex object too. My DH does say that he isn't okay with revealing clothes, but then he doesn't want to comment on it when they dress like ho's b/c it would draw attention to it...and he'd have to do something about it. Little girls who try to "advertise" their bodies are just asking for trouble. Yes, you should be able to wear what you want and what makes you feel pretty, but under the age of 18, a parent gets to choose where that line is drawn...not the kids. I agree with LEAHMCC311 though - you could take her somewhere to buy her new clothes, but have it be a tradeoff at the store... I'll buy you this if you agree to donate "that" when we get home. And before you give them the new pretty stuff they want (and that's appropriate) have them bring the too tight stuff to you. I'm still fighting a battle with SD's under 16 who wear lacy thongs and "booty shorts" though, so putting this advice in to practice isn't very easily done all the time...
I this this is my SO's
I this this is my SO's problem.
"My DH does say that he isn't okay with revealing clothes, but then he doesn't want to comment on it when they dress like ho's b/c it would draw attention to it...and he'd have to do something about it."
she and Dad are probably in
she and Dad are probably in denial about her weight gain. She is thinking that because she can still cram herself in her usual clothes that everything is fine. Dad most likely doesn't want to hurt her feelings by telling her that her pants are too small. What about if a more "neutral" party said somethig to her? what about her sister? are they close?
It's kind of a tough one, I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings by insinuating she is fat, (13 is a rough age for self image) but I'd also not want her walking around looking like a 2 bit ho because her pants are so tight.