Song Dedications...
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The other day I found out my wife sent a text to her daughter with a song saying "Listen to this.....I think of you when I hear it."
Now before this, I thought of this song as one of "our" songs. (Adele: To make you feel my love) When she played it while we were sitting out back last night, I couldn't feel the same way about the song anymore...I didn't say anything....in a insane way, I almost feel cheated on...am I wrong to think different now too? Should I say something?
that's gross. I'm not sure I
that's gross. I'm not sure I can put it into words but I know exactly how you feel. And I'm sorry but the fact that someone would send their kid a song like that is just weird.
I mean, obsessed much??
I send my kids songs on their bdays and I change the words but it's not ever a love song. But I guess some ppl are good at compartmentalizing things in their lives.
I will say one time at xmas, my DH came home from shopping. He had a bunch of bags and left one on the table all day. So, I, not knowing what it was, opened the one bag to see what was in it. There were 2 xmas cards.
He'd gotten then from this little boutique place so they were different in design for reg cards.
Card 1: had a generic forest scene with little animals and said something sweet inside.
Card 2: had the word ALWAYS on the front and then inside had words of love.. something you would give to a lover.
Which card do you think I found when I opened my stocking on xmas day??? YUP, the little forest scene with the bunnies.
So a few days later we got into an argument and I brought up the card. Told him I had seen what he did and asked who the other card was for.... he said his daughter. I laughed and said.. really... who sends their kid a card that's meant for a lover??
Always!! He then tore the back off the card and just put it on the fridge with a magnet. Finally I threw it away one day when he was going. Ridiculous. He's never brought it up since. But he did realize that it was inappropriate to give the card to his daughter.
It makes me feel icky to have to bring up things like that but if some people don't have the moral compass pointing in the right direction, I'll do it.
Thanks for the feedback. I
Thanks for the feedback. I agree that it's not worth a fight, but I definitely can't listen to the song the same way. The "getting old" suggestion is good, Sally.
I guess in my head, if she sent that song to her kid, and that song says there is nothing she wouldn't do for her daughter to make her feel her love for her....her kids already broke up the blended family with their lies several years ago, which almost broke us up too, what if she says, "If you love me you'll get rid of 'Polarbear'"
Momagainfor4, thanks for the validation that it was a weird song choice to send your kid. Sorry about the card, totally not cool.