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Major Blunder's picture

So while I was away apparently the site had an overhaul ( very nice btw ) and my friends list got wiped out, being that I have an awful memory I need some help.  If I am on your friends list please let me know so I can re-friend you !

I finally reached a point in my new position at work where I can spend sometime on here during the day, not every day but most days and look forward to reconnecting with some of you as I move into Step Parenting 2.0 or phase 2 or whatever you want to call it, I call it "oh gawd i'm doing this again, apparently I did lose my sanity !"

If we weren't friends before we still can be !

justmakingthebest's picture

Welome back - I too am doing round 2 of the step parent thing. Tons of fun right?!?! 

At least this time my DH is actually supportive and a partner! We just have a crazy BM to deal with.

fairyo's picture

Yes, it changed a few months ago. Lots of old names don't seem to post here anymore and I miss them, (especially Acratopotes), but many old stalwarts are still around, some just don't post as much as they used to. I have to say the site is less entertaining, but there is still invaluable advice here. Welcome back!

Major Blunder's picture

Sorry to hear Acra is no longer around, she was always entertaining and seemed like a good online friend .  What has changed to make the site less entertaining besides less posting from old stalwarts?

OptimisticFuture2018's picture

I am new to this forum and never thought to seek a forum as a resource as I was probably over consumed with the events in my life.  I separated from my husband over 4 years ago because of things that occurred between us, things I felt at the time needed to be addressed where he needed to restructure or reprioritze his life. 

Though there were a couple issues he did need to address regarding my stepkids, they were not the reason for the separation.  We have 3 kids together and he has 3 from a previous marriage which are my step kids.  My husband and I did try to revisit the possibility of getting back together and it has been more than challenging to say the least considering the circumstances of our personal issues.  I thought from the beginning that I was doing the right thing and in everyone's best interest.  It turns out, I am still quite the bad guy and am being blamed for the lack of connection between all 6 kids.  I held my husband accountable to focus his relationship to his kids. 

My frustration and question is: Is my relationship to my step kids repairable.  My step daughter is very angry with me. I did not realize what she went through until my husband and I had a meeting with her and her brother.  I also realized my husband never did express some of the significant things that needed to be addressed.  And now, I am consumed with how I can make this right.  How can I get her to feel comfortable around me or even have the feeling of wanting to do things with me without feeling like she has to just because my husband is her dad?  We had a good relationship prior until the end.  She was feeling as if her dad cared more for her younger siblings and started to resent me.