Should I have to hide my stuff?
SOOOO I have special "snacks" just for me. They consist of pretzels and popcorn...things like that so I can have them for work. But whenever Chapoopa comes over...he DEVOURS them. He could seriously eat us out of house and home....I mean the kid would eat 20 cans of Spaghetti O's a day if we'd allow that. (He doesn't enjoy real food) I have been able to have these things now for over a month because he hasn't been there. He comes back tomorrow (happy happy joy joy 
) I don't feel like I should have to hide my stuff just so he won't eat it and I know if I tell him NOT to eat them... He's going to do it when I am not looking and then lie about because that's the type of kid he is . Should I just hide the darn things to avoid confrontation or what?
just hide your stuff and
just hide your stuff and avoid the drama.... in fact hide all the shit he likes and enjoy watching him get irritated.
BWAHAHAHA!! I ALMOST did
BWAHAHAHA!! I ALMOST did that last night!!! He LOVES Spaghetti O's but I buy Chef Boyardee because I know he doesn't like those as much but will eat them! But Spaghetti O's were on sale at the grocery store....so I stocked up on them. Now I am not going to lie....I like them too and when I don't feel like cooking...they work for me! So I was going to hide all but maybe 2 cans and then I thought that's stupid!! If I put them up in the top cabinet....I will forget they are there! HAHA
****I can do bad all by myself****
I hide everything, and keep
I hide everything, and keep most snacks at work. They always lie and will take when your not looking.
sd stole gift cards out of
sd stole gift cards out of my purse 2+ years ago and i still hide my purse every time she is at my house. dh says he doesn't blame me! i do have a wonderful dh, he'd be pretty damn close to perfect it weren't for those 3 big fat mistakes he made in the past..
We had to buy a safe. I
We had to buy a safe.
I take my purse with me when I go to bed and I lock the file cabinet.
I mark all the boxes in the pantry...ie..."Kids", "ohnoyoudidnts"..."Everyone"
All candy is hidden in our room also.
I also log off my computor which is password protected.
Ohhh I know that one!! I
Ohhh I know that one!! I lost a lot of cash, in small increments, and DH tells me it's my fault I left it lying out?? I was livid, very indignant too, I am like 'teach your kids it's wrong to steal'! On second thought, though, we know we cannot trust SK's as far as we can throw them and he's right! Cuckoo bird would hotglue stuff down rather than teach them not to touch other people's stuff?? These are two very hyper kids, twins, boy and girl. Cuckoo bird dropped them off in our nest to correct the mistakes she made when they got too much for her.
All it means that when they ask for cash I have none!! I cannot keep cash in the house because it goes missing...too bad!! Do some chores to earn your spending money kids!! I might just go to the ATM if you are willing to do something to earn a privilege. I guess they do not want privileges?? They'll be leaving home soon!!
He has never stolen anything
He has never stolen anything from me....that I know of. However I WOULD NOT put it past him! He LOVES money but I never carry any on me so he's SOL there!
****I can do bad all by myself****
maybe buy the cheaper "off
maybe buy the cheaper "off brand" snacks for him and keep your special snacks hidden. I had to do this when my sister lived with me. She was the same way. I just bought munchie stuff at the dollar store for the kitchen, all the good stuff was hidden in my bedroom closet!
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This. If my stepson is going
This. If my stepson is going to be there (and he is about half the time) I buy the cheapest, crappiest, snacks I can think of, and then I hide the good ones for me and my kids. Let the stepkid eat garbage, but we're going to eat well. Hey, I pay the bills and until that kid respects me, my home, and my family, he can eat crap.
Just hide your food to avoid
Just hide your food to avoid the drama. I would rather hide my 100 calorie milanos than open the cabinet to an empty box again, lol, been there, done that!!!
"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus
i think it's a great chance
i think it's a great chance for you to try the "healthy eating challenge"...that means get rid of all little snacks and stuff and only buy great whole organic food! then, not only will your health benefit, but as a bonus, you'll get the enjoyment of watching him be ticked off cause there's nothing to eat! hehe
My kids buy and hide thier
My kids buy and hide thier own snacks. It sucks, but SS will sit and go thru a box of cookies at one sitting. And many other things. Even after being told over and over that a snack is one small thing. Not a box. he still will do it. So I hide a few of my favorite things and so do my kids. I hate it!!
My wife gets frustrated when
My wife gets frustrated when she shops then a few days later goes to get a glass of juice or some other food/drink and there is none left.
My thought is that if it is in the pantry/fridge it is free game.
Certainly if there is a dietary restriction that requires special foods then either everyone changes their diet or hands off of that particular stuff for everyone but the intended.
IMHO of course.
Best regards,
I have to hide all kinds of
I have to hide all kinds of things from SD because she just flat out refuses to respect my space and my stuff. I don't do it with food, yet, though I have thought about it, but I do hide things like my shampoo and conditioner and my makeup. I have asked her multiple times not to use my stuff in the bathroom without asking and she does it anyway. I use expensive stuff on my hair and I know how to use it so I only have to buy a 1 liter bottle of shampoo and conditioner every 6 months or so. SD goes through a 1 liter bottle of the stuff in 3 weeks! So I stopped getting it for her and started getting her some of the less expensive stuff. She still was using my stuff, so now I hide it in my closet upstairs and have to carry a bath caddy back and forth in my own house all because my SD has no respect for me. I have to do the same with my makeup and a few other items. It is more worth it to me to do what I need to do to avoid conflict in a situation that I am not making any progress in than to keep confronting her about the same thing over and over again. I don't see anything wrong with have a little something special for yourself, and if that means you need to keep it hidden away so you will actually be able to enjoy it then so be it.
With 6 children, I don't
With 6 children, I don't leave anything snackish out except for fruit, and they can eat that till they explode as long as it's not within 2 hours of a scheduled meal.
I long ago bought a lock for my bedroom. I have always kept a locked gun safe in there, and I keep my cash locked in there, too. I keep all meds and valuables locked in my room. I also have a cabinet that I keep groceries that I want to dole out slowly in the room. I don't like to do big grocery trips more than twice a month, but if you think about it, one 6-pack of snacks split between 6 kids is gone in a sitting. So I lock that stuff in my room, and keep a full fruit bowl, and pass the other stuff out individually. Otherwise the bigger kids would eat it all, and the little ones would never get anything. It's funny how SS12 will get something, then ask another parent for the same thing he just got, knowing he already got his share out of that box. I love to bust him on it "SS, I just gave you one less than 20 minutes ago. If you're still hungry, it's time for a PBJ and fruit! Stop scammin!"
Take some to work
Take some to work, leave out a few decoy items, and hide the rest.
What a terrible diet he has
What a terrible diet he has and tge parents allow it...
I sympathise, we have always had similar problems with SS now 18. He is also a hardened thief, so we are all locked up all the time. I hate living like that but he made it come to this.
Lock up your goodies, they are not for him.
The devil spawn used to use
The devil spawn used to use my $$$ body wash and shampoo all the time, but would deny it when asked.
i ended up getting cheap $1 shampoo and refilling up the expensive bottles.
As they got older and started working they bought the expensive stuff. It was nice to use hehe...
You shouldn't HAVE TO, but
You shouldn't HAVE TO, but since my sd is a thief, I hide my stuff
Honestly, I do this. A couple
Honestly, I do this. A couple of weeks ago I had a random craving for bbq corn chips so I bought some. After eating what I wanted for the night, I buried them way in the back of a high cabinet where SD could physically not see or reach without a ladder.
Sorry, but I work all day every day, and I pay all the bills. Some things are gonna be just for me.
I hide MY stuff
SS17 wants a champagne lifestyle on a beer budget. Let’s start with avocados. I come down to make smashed avo on toast for breakfast, the avocado will inevitably be eaten by him. My delicious but pricey muesli? That will be tucked in to as well. My favourite chilli and lime corn chips with my favourite salsa dip? Yep you guessed it, that will have been munched. Bottles of sparkling water? Snaffled from the drinks fridge. It does my head in.
I now hide things that are ‘mine’. It just pisses me off too much when I go to eat:drink something and it is gone. I am pregnant, if I want to eat or drink something the piss ants in this house had better not touch it. Grr.