My husband and I dated for 2yrs and broke up for a month in 06. We dated other people for that short time. We decided we wanted to get back together so we broke it off with the other two. The girl he was seeing was not happy. We will call her *Alexis. She called him up, said she was pregnant and pretty much harassed him. She found me online and harassed me too. He didn't believe her because she was crazy and known as a liar. He though she didn't want the relationship to end so she was just trying to scare him. She moved away but kept harassing us. Then it stopped for a while. 2yrs later he gets served with child support papers. We went to court and it was his. I decided to stay with him because I loved him and we both wanted to make it work. We told our lawyer we wanted nothing to do with them. We had our own life and family. The lawyer wrote her a letter explaining that he was doing what the court asked of him and she needed to leave us alone. Another 2yrs go by and she finds me again the internet. She tells me she needs some paper work and if we ignore her she will take us to court. I called her and sent the paper work. She ended up telling me if he steps up and is in the child's life she wouldn't go for daycare. He doesn't have the greatest job and child support already hurts us. So we said fine. Everything was great for a while. He was talking to the little girl a couple times a week. We saw them a couple times when they came up. I actually thought we could make this work. She thanked me up and down for talking to him and getting him involved. He warned me she was nuts and I kept thinking no no no she is a mom. She wants the best for her child. So I gave her the benefit or the doubt. Her and I, I thought became friends. I was really trying. I couldn't imagine doing it on my own. He was also trying too. Then after about 3 or 4 months into this, its like she snapped. She became difficult. (She told us off the bat we lived far and she didn't expect much.)She started having attitude, picking fights and being unreasonable. It was like it was a cover the whole time. I feel so stupid. Her and her bf broke up and things got worse. I'm almost positive after all this time she still wants him. He has no interest in her what so ever. He didn't even talk to her other than hi when he talk to the kid. Everything was through me and thats what everyone felt comfortable with at the time. Then she told me she wished they could be okay with each other and have a normal conversation. After she got his cell number she texting him a lot. Nothing inappropriate but he is a married man and respects me. He put her in her place. He was in it for the kid and made it clear they were just friends. Idk...she is just difficult and I can't stand it. I thought I was doing the right thing on two levels. One for that child and two for our financial interest. She texts him and picks fights, has attitude. I think she is hoping to break us up. The kid likes me. She hugs me and kisses me when she sees me. I am a true sport. And its like she is screwing this up. I'm not going to pretend I know she feels. I don't. He told her if she handled things better yrs ago, it could have been different. I would still be his wife but he would have been involved with the kid yrs ago. She is just making this so hard. He called her one day and told her if this kiddy stuff doesn't stop he would disappear. She acted like an a adult for a short time then went back to her old ways. Idk what to do. Its affecting me. It makes me mad how unreasonable she can be. We are trying here and how all of a sudden its like it doesn't matter. Any suggestions?