I am going to do the same thing for X-mas also. It was nice not to have tension in the house. Unfortunately she has 2 kids that don't get to come spend time with us here, but they hear so much bad about me the older they get the less they come around me also. Now she has reuined more relationships. SD has manipulated her husband so much he doesn't even speak to his mom or dad. OH by the way I forgot to say sd lies so much I think she believes herself.