Hello, 

I met this guy about 8 months ago. He has a son (4) from previous relationship and I have a son (5) from previous relationship. Hes really good friends with my dad and asked my dad if he could date me about 6 months ago and we've been dating ever since. However my dad said to be careful cause he tells him his bm is crazy calling police on him all the time trying to scam him out of money. He seems like a respectful guy so I was suprised to hear that. When I first met ss he was shy didnt talk much and kept to himself. About 3 months ago I introduced him to my son so they could meet each other. My son brought alot of his toys over for them to play. SS started getting upset, took all the toys and hit my son. We told him no hitting and he threw his toys at us. I was suprised but thought maybe if we give them time they will get better. Bf says its normal and that's how boys play. As time went on he seemed to get worse and even hateful to my son. My son was playing with a ball. Ss came up to him stared at him without saying anything for a good minute looked at me and said I want to hit him with a knife. I told his dad and he didnt think anything of it. He started to call me mommy which was out of no where cause I barely know this kid and never did anything to make him start calling me that. His dad thinks it's cute and encourages him saying "I wish you were his real mom". His dad likes to give him tools like screw divers and stuff saying it will help him learn things about the world. He was playing with a screw driver walked up to my son and said he wants to hit him with the screw driver out of know where. Another time I walked in the room saw my son hiding in a corner scared and ss was hitting him with a cord. When my son tried to get up he screamed fir him to go back to the corner. His dad freaked out and told him not to do that. I stopped bringing my son over at that point cause that scared me. I started to ask his dad about his bm. He didnt say much only that he meets her at police station during drop offs cause shes crazy. He also said he never wanted his son and she tricked him by lying about being on birth control. I started to distance myself from the relationship at that point and when he noticed he started telling me things like I'm the woman of his dreams. He wishes he had kids with me and I'm the closest thing he has to family and doesn't want to lose me. I kinda felt bad for him and stayed talking to him but still kept a distance. When I went to visit him a few weeks ago his son was there following us around everywhere we go. He said strange things like when I went to the bathroom he would try to follow and his dad said know and he got mad and screamed "I want to see mommy naked!". When his dad told him not to do that he got mad and screamed "I want to show you my penis" and how pulled his pants down. His dad got mad and told him to go to the corner and the kid spit on him. He then called bm to come pick him up cause hes "misbehaving". He drove to police station to drop him off with bm. About 10 min later he calls me and tells me to stay inside and dong open door for anyone. I looked out window and saw some woman pull up. He told me that's his bm dont answer the door. She started banging on door. I stayed inside. Dad showed up telling her to leave. She demanded to meet me saying "I'f shes gonna be around my son I need to meet her". She refused to leave dad called police to escort her to leave. She then texted him saying "I dont understand. You were trying to get me to move in with you 6 months ago and now you have a gf?". He told her he has never been with her. He swore to me hasn't been with her in 2 years and that he was only trying to convince her to live with him so he could protect his son cause shes crazy. He then said shes been trying to move to utah and shes mad cause he wknt let her due to custody agreement. He told me I'm the woman hes been waiting for all his life he never wanted to get married till he met me and he said he can just let her take his son and go back to utah cause he doesn't want to lose me. I've kind of been distant with him since then it's been about a week.

I'm thinking I should just go ahead and in this relationship. I feel like there is alot of red flags with bm his son and even him cause he says he never had a relationship with her and she tricked him into getting pregnant for child support and that she cheated on him and stuff. However he has a tattoo of her name on his arm. He said he did it so she would trust him and move back in with him but since he met me he "knows I'm the woman for him" and he wants to marry me. He never did paternity test but says he knows in his heart it is his son and that the kid looks like him.

Personally, I feel we should just break it off at this point. His son and ex gf behavior scare me and his story just doesn't add up. It feels like hes trying to play victim and I'm shocked he would be ok with just letting his son go to utah with her to be with a chick he only knew for 6 months.