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REALLY ANGRY letter to BM

NotSureAnymore's picture

Now its lovely how you get to have EOW off and sometimes every weekend. Its lovely how every move you make isnt calculated by your children. Its lovely how your children love you despite you being emotionally, mentally and physically abusive. Im glad your enjoying your life. Its lovely how you go and disrespect me in front of your kids when all i do is teach them to respect and love you. They are learning so well from you to disrespect me completely.
Its lovely how your teaching them manners about how to sit with their legs open wearing a dress and encourage child hussy wear upon your kids. Its lovely how your trying to destroy my relationship with DH and just to make you feel good for one moment in this letter, your plan is working. So seeing as though probably soon you will have another step mum to deal with when im gone, I decided to list a few things that you might find handy WHEN IM NOT SUPPORTING YOUR KIDS ANYMORE

1. I wont be cleaning your 2 daughters hair out from head lice EOW so you need to buy tea tree oil, make the natural head lice defense spray and buy them headlice killing products.
2. I wont be encouraging them to read to strengthen their language skills which will make life easier while they are learning at school.
3. I wont be teaching them how to bake or cook dinners to instill in them independence, creativity and passion for healthy food which you may have benefited from while they are in your care
3. I wont be taking them to the swimming pools EOW and you can save that $20 for a leisure acitivty.
4. They will no longer go camping, fishing or to the beach accompanied by myself and my delicious sandwhiches and sweets.
5. They will no longer recieve love, a boost in self esteem about them feeling comfortable in their own skin, counteracting all your put downs about how FAT they are.
6. I will no longer cook them healthy dinners and variations of food that they love and enjoy (see recipe book provided)
7. I will no longer buy them clothing as your hussy style is the preferred method of dress.
8. I will no longer clean up after them while they are at MY HOUSE - on the sunday morning they will be armed with a broom, mop, toilet/bathroom cleaning tools and products and clean up after they have been here.
9. I will no longer play ping pong with them everyday they are here to ensure they have a movement activity despite being home
10. I will no longer answer questions about 'why i love this child more than the other' and be monitored on every move i make
11. I will no longer be your baby sitter - expect for them to be hungry when they are dropped off as it is DH responsibility now to care for them
12. I will no longer even see my involvement as disengaging because there may not be anyone to disengage with - as i might not be their step mother anymore
13. I will no longer leave myself open to be disrespected completely by your children and have them effect my future as they have already done.

The list can go on ... and on... and on... but right now im just dissapointed in the behavior you and your children have displayed towards me. I also want a cash cheque of approximatly $30,000 for looking after YOUR children. I want you to never hit on my best friend again, she is now friends with DH and wouldnt even look at you - please dont flatter yourself by attempting to enter my life via my friends. You are an evil woman and i can only feel sorry for the extra responsibility you will have AFTER IM GONE - when YOUR CHILDREN start breaking your balls about doing all the things they feel are just a normal part of their life while they have been with me for the last 3 years.

I know your happy with yourself and DH now sees me as an overly emotional person who cant seem to get passed the 'joke' or more like the LIE that your children expressed to you regarding their fear of me 'hitting' them. This makes me sick and discusts me and your only reflecting your own guilt onto me and instilling a further disrespect towards me because of you teasing MY NAME IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS - they think im an outsider because of you - and in reality I AM AN OUTSIDER. Thanks for clarifying that reality for me - i was stupid before.

Seriously woman !!!!!!! You have achieved your goal of officially driving me crazy and i dont want to be involved with you and your crazy family - especially not your daughters.

Have fun raising daughters that have issues regarding their bodies
Have fun facing the resentment that they have towards you because your not MARTHA STEWART
Have fun thinking your children dont love you because you dont take them swimming

Have fun with your life and your children because im about to disengage and see how i feel in 6 months time.

Please dont send me 'sickening sweet' manipulative msgs again and making me out to look like the bad guy after I demand some respect from DH from his children.

I dont want this anymore - have fun having it!

NotSureAnymore's picture

That is some good advice. Luckily i didnt send it, BUT OHHHHHHH HOW I WANTED TO. The day hasnt progressed to be any easier but i feel like a fool for allowing anything outside of my relationship to effect it. Honestly i feel like a fool and dont know if i should attempt at repairing my relationship or finally decide that this is going to happen again and again and i shouldnt even bother because no1 else seems to be caring enough to even empathise with how im feeling. Its all about everyone else, for me to compromise myself for everyone else and i get the assed end of the stick. This site is so helpful - I feel like yelling this out to my partner but if i do that ill be a different kind of crazy, and judged as being overly emotional instead of just seeing it for me expressing my feelings.

I was so close to packing a suitcase or 5.

And just walking... and walking and walking

and homelessness kinda looked good for a moment...

and then i decided to cool off and have a shower and see where my mind took me..

well im calmer but still majorly pissed

bestwife's picture

Warthog (aka BM) was a horrible mother. She would just "shut down" and stop parenting when things got difficult. And they got difficult very early on.

#1 son was incorrigible by age 6 - took a gun to school in the 1st grade. He is now an ex-con, prison gang member, on the lam from the law, and is dying.

#2 son is pathetic. Kind of sweet but often homeless. Problems with alcohol and drugs. No self-esteem. Doesn't even have a driver's license much less any education.

She reaped what she sowed.