OK recently DH has been showing signs of attempting to correct his unruly 7 year old who has been able to run undisciplined for years.

The thing that gets me though is SS called kissing DH's butt because he wanted a new video game (DH buys them all the time for SS no matter how horrible he acts out). DH told him to stop "brown-nosing" jokingly. So one could surmise form this that DH recognizes SS's manipulative behavior then???

There are a lot of other instances in the past few weeks where DH has began to set limits for SS (then he runs to bipolar BM who allows SS to do whatever he pleases) and tries to hurt DH. How adorable is that? (sarcasm)

Two things, if DH recognizes all the bad behaviors then why isn't he more consistent and focused on fixing his kid who makes everyone miserable at every opportunity?

Secondly, I'm worried that SSs attempts to ignore his father to "punish" him for not letting him continue to be an unholy tyrant to everyone may just work. ???

I've tried helping DH get over this "guilt" thing. I mean it is not like SS is not spoiled in a million ways that a lot of other children aren't. Also, DH loves his child and his son is nothing but hateful, disrespectful and manipulative towards him. SS will make a big show of affection towards his father two minutes before talking to him as if DH is a servant and he is the king. Still DH is full of excuses, but he seems to be less inclined to ignore it completely now.

Also, I'm concerned DH will resent me in the end for not letting this monster run over everyone unhindered, which I cannot do. I quietly leave the room when SS acts out now as I refuse to give him an audience and let DH handle it. But I am not going to sit in my bedroom for hours on end whenever SS comes over and throws tantrum after tantrum. That is not fair to me is it???