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Pushing Rocks

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Submitted by AVDetroit on Mon, 08/09/2010 - 7:30pm

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Does anyone here have a guesstimate of how many posters here solve the problem that they've come to vent about? split with their spouse or SO? or continue pushing the boulder up hill?*

(Dante's Inferno - surmises a character in hell continues pushing the boulder up hill because he knows that that's what he will be doing for the rest of eternity and there are no surprises or changes)

I'm one of those that patience is soon to run out with pushing rocks.

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Submitted by AlexandraL on Mon, 08/09/2010 - 7:42pm

I think most people keep pushing rocks. I gave up pushing (Splitsville for me).

My counselor said it takes an average of seven years before a stepfamily works out all the kinks. If I was seeing real change, maybe I'd keep pushing, but I chose not to...

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Submitted by JustAnotherSM on Mon, 08/09/2010 - 8:53pm

Seven years, huh? Well I've been doing this for about 16 years now and we still haven't worked out all the kinks. LOL I'm still pushing rocks, too. Although the rocks are much smaller these days. Wink

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Mon, 08/09/2010 - 8:08pm

The sad fact of life is that for the last six months, not a day has gone by without me fondly remembering when I was single and living alone. I honestly miss those simple days, with little or no conflict and drama.

Here's a typical scenario at our house. I'm a reader, DH is a TV watcher. I can put in my headphones and read while he watches TV. Now I may actually get through half of a sentence before DH starts with the questions. Do you need more water? Would you like a blanket? Do you want something to eat? All questions disguised as being nice so HE can feel indignant when I reply: DH, I'm reading. If you want to have a conversation then I will put down my book, and you can shut off the TV. No? You don't want to talk? Then please be quiet and if I need anything I will get it myself. Thank you. Then DH gets up, stomps around the house bitching because he's the only husband in the world that gets bitched at for being NICE.

Seven years? Holy crap, I'm sure I'll lose it and be committed by year 5.