No respect for personal belongings
So, SD10 has not respect for her personal belongings. I've caught her wiping a dry erase board with a sweater, I bought her a Barbie styling head--she snuck it to BM's home, and it came back with half pink hair and half no hair and permanent "tattoos" all over it. It annoyed the crap out of me that she wasn't told to respect her toys and that it was unacceptable. I only bought it for $10 and now she's terrified of it, but I make her keep it, because that's what she did to it.
The newest issue this weekend was when she came over and showed me her American Girl doll and laughed--she tattooed her forehead and cut her hair into a chopped Bob. I didn't acknowlege the behavior. Luckily, no one in our family bought the doll and she did the makeover at BM's house.
My question is: is this normal? Shouldn't kids be taught to respect their things?
I spoke with DH because he's oblivious to the makeover. He said he blew up his toys all the time (but he wasn't well supervised as a child and it sounds awful.) I truly don't care what she did to the American Girl doll, but I would if it came from our families. It really makes me not want to buy her anything nice until she learns to take care of things. This Christmas I got her 4 things you decorate yourself (bag, purse, wallet, keychain). She still hasn't decorated or colored them, just her dolls-but not on our watch. What gives?
Spoiled or screaming for
Spoiled or screaming for help. She may be feeling damaged or ugly on the inside and crying for help. She is only 10. What do her birth parents seem to think about it?
Neither seem to care. She
Neither seem to care. She doesn't do it when she's with DH and I, only at BM's house. But DH thinks she's just being a kid and it's her stuff. I can't tell what it is. She does have a bunch for cut up childhood pictures glued to a composition notebook. It's only cut around the people not cutting in half or cutting people out. I think she's very unsupervised with BM. She makes all her own meals over there from what she tells me. And I use the term meals loosely because it's a lot of canned food and bread.
My SO's kids (all girls) do
My SO's kids (all girls) do this. From what Ive witnessed, Someone always buys them a new one (whatever it is) and that someone is NEVER BM. Its MIL, FIL or SO.
I used to say something about it. I quit. Its their money. They are the stupid ones spending on the same items over and over. But I do have the "if its not yours dont touch it" rule, for this reason ^^^