Hello everyone. I've been a lurker of this site for quite some time now. Have taken a lot of the advice I've seen given, and finally decided to create an account.

About me: I'm 27 years old, been married to my DH for almost two years now, currently 11 weeks pregnant with my first child, and a stepmother to a 4-year-old little girl. I do indeed feel like the wicked step-mother: I cannot stand my SD. Not one bit. I've felt guilty about feeling this way for a while now, but it is what it is, and that's why I'm here. I haven't always felt this way about her. I came into the picture when she two years old. DH was never married to her mother. I actually used to enjoy being around her and spending time with her, I would encourage DH to have her over more often..this later came back to bite me on the a**. BM has always give me a hard time and likes to play games when it comes to DH seeing his daughter. As for me not liking the child...I just cannot stand her anymore. Why? Well...here we go: After us and her mother potty training her for over a year, she will proceed to urinate ON THE FLOOR and then blame it on the dog. She doesn't have a UTI or any health problems, she knows how to use a toilet, so I have no bloody clue as to why she does this. Ask her to clean it up? The screaming will start, then things will get thrown, then little punches and kicks will be thrown until finally DH gives up and just cleans it himself (I stopped cleaning up her messes, he wants her over, he has to clean up after her). Can't have her around any of our animals. She gets a rise out of kicking/hitting/stomping on their paws. I'll be damned if one of my dogs get hurt or get their ass beat by DH because she gets bitten after harassing one of them. I'm very nervous about having her around the baby when he's finally here. Her behavior towards animals disturbs me, and she's hit her younger cousins before for something as simple as touching one of her toys. My SIL won't have her over anymore actually after SD pushed her 1 year old down on the ground (just learning to walk, mind you) for picking up a toy car that belonged to SD. When she gets mad at DH, she hits/bites, so yeah...Not very comfortable with having her around the new baby when the time comes. She needs CONSTANT attention from DH when she's here. I understand spending quality time together and everything, but she's so clingy, she will wait outside the bathroom door for him when he's doing his thing in there. She WILL NOT play by herself, even for 10 minutes. When bedtime comes, she starts the screaming and crying because DH won't let her sleep in our bed with us/won't sleep in her room with her. I pretty much don't have a husband when she's over, which is fine, as I make plans to do things outside the house/with family and friends. She ignores me anymore when she's over, which again, fine by me. About a year or so ago, SD tells me that BM told her that she's not allowed to love me and that's when her ignoring me started. It used to bother me when she started to do that, but I have since let it go and figure it's a lot less stress on me and frees up my day. BM recently purchased a Wii for her boyfriend, which she lets SD play. I find this ridiculous as she's FOUR YEARS OLD and can't even count to ten or recite her ABCs, but whatever...Anyway, DH calls SD on her birthday, SD is playing the Wii when he calls. BM pauses the Wii so SD will talk to her father, which didn't sit so well with SD. She starts screaming and crying and tells DH that she hates him and then throws her BM's phone...all because her game was paused. As for trying to teach her things...DH tries to get her to count or sing the ABCs, she starts crying and says "I just can't do it!" and continues to cry and fuss until DH just gives up. MIL picked SD this past weekend, and I guess when they got back to MIL's house, SD threw a huge fit because there's no game system there for her play. MIL cut her time with SD short because of this, as she didn't want to do anything but play video games and cry because there were no video games to play. Mind you, MIL only sees her three or four times a year. We haven't had her over since she's started playing video games but I'm pretty sure the same thing will happen over here since we don't have any video game systems. Meal time is always the worst and is the biggest reason as to why I leave when she's here. All she wants to eat is macaroni and cheese and Mcdonald's. I'm not a restaurant or a catering service, so she's going to eat I make or not eat at all. When trying to get her to eat, she will sit there and SCREAM about how much she hates the food and then throw it against the wall. We have never had a peaceful dinner with her over our house.

There's a lot more...I'm just sick of typing and have written quite a bit already. I've never been around a child that has acted like her before (I have lots of nieces and nephews, of all different ages and family situations). Her behavior just disgusts me. Luckily (for me), our current living situation really isn't suitable to her over like we used to (used to have her over four days/three nights a week. that changed into every other weekend after BM pulled some BS). We've only been having her over once a month, no overnight. Like I said, I used to encourage DH to have her spend the night more often, spend more days over here, call her more often, but after being around her so much a while, I just couldn't take it anymore. Her behavior was just too much. You won't hear me asking him to have her over anymore.

Thanks for taking the time to read all of this. I needed to get it out.