I just want to share and get some feedback on my situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and he has a five year old little girl. Her mom is in and out of her life. The BM hasn't held a job for more than a month ever, has another kid from the man she cheated on my boyfriend with when they were together and is now expecting another child from her current boyfriend who is now in jail because they stole a woman's phone out of her car at the gas station. She lies and steals from her own family. The BM's own father said that I am more welcome at his house than his own daughter. My boyfriend and BM set up a schedule for SD to see her mom. She is supposed to have SD every other weekend and on Mondays and Tuesdays but she takes SD maybe once a week if we are lucky, the whole month of December she only had her once on Christmas for a few hours before she called us to come pick SD up. This happens a lot, she will take her for the night and a few hours later call us to pick her up because "something came up" or SD wants to come home. That's not as bad as the times she tells SD she is coming to get her or can come see her and then won't answer her phone or is MIA so SD is heartbroken. I have taken the role of mother in SD's life, she calls me "lulu" her own little nickname for me. My relationship with SD has gotten so much better in the past few months because I am the one who is here taking care of her but there are still times when she is mad at me because her mom broke yet another promise.it breaks my heart to see her cry or to cherish little things like she won't take her shoes off when she gets home because "mommy put them on me" she grabs hold of anything she can get from her mom and holds on for dear life. I don't think this woman has a clue what she is doing to her child. She is making her own kid beg for her attention and time. The other day we were at BM's dad's house SD's grandpa, and the BM came over saw her kid for maybe five minutes and then went next door to hangout with the neighbors, leaving her kid upset. I have no children of my own yet so I've only just started to learn what it means to be a mother. This little girl has become my whole world and I couldn't imagine her not being in my life everyday. I miss her when she stays with her mom or nana. I miss her when I have to work late and I'm not there to read her a bedtime story. Mondays and Tuesdays are now my days with her. I make sure I'm off those two days every week and we hangout and play games. I never wanted to replace her mother and I really wish the BM could be a good mom so that I wouldn't be making up for what she's lacking, I'd just be adding to what she already had.