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jesstrem's picture

Divorced parents are total users who will use you for whatever they can get out of you and discard you as soon as you stand up for yourself and confront the one sidedness of the "relationship". Their snotty kids are just a bystander in all of this and if you don't think their bratty kids don't learn how to manipuate and use people from a young age by being around their parent and observing their behavior then you are seriously in denial. These parents are like leeches, parasites, who do nothing but use people and will continue to until you have nothing left to give then they are onto the next. I speak the truth. Peace.

Rags's picture

Certainly you speak the truth from your own perspective.  Fortunately, not all divorced parents are the same as the one(s) you have experienced and there are even some who are good parents who raise decent kids.

 

tog redux's picture

My DH isn't like that - don't think it's fair to generalize from a few bad apples to "all divorced people". That's a lot of people!

SeeYouNever's picture

A lot of divorced people with kids still think they are gods gift to the opposite sex and go into dating expecting to sit back and be wooed along with their kids. These ones want a replacement mom/dad and all the financial/childcare perks that come with it, oftentimea while still getting support from the other bioparent. The goal is to have multiple adults all paying and responsable for their kids. These are the bad ones.

Plenty of divorced people realize that trying to find and keep someone when you have a failed marriage behind you and you come with the baggage of kids puts you at a disadvantage and therefore you have to work harder to keep your partner. Those are the realistic ones. 

Crspyew's picture

Many of us, myself included, have spouses who are good partners and put in the time to make our step situation better. Sounds like you picked a bad one.

ESMOD's picture

There are certainly people out there like that.  Of course when you are dating someone who has a failed relationship... there is always the chance that they were the problem..lol

Stepdrama2020's picture

I found one of the bad ones. This seems to apply to me. He thought because I have no children of my own that his daughter would also be the center of my world like she is to him. Instead after years of trying she wants nothing to do with me. As a result my husband is following the spoiled daughters path. Ive done my part and now his ex wife is in his world again. Hope they are all happy together. Sarcasm here.

DHsfamilyfromhell's picture

Yikes! There are sometimes wider issues at play in families such as in laws (or ex in laws) using any age child (even grown up) as an ‘agent’ to get something that they want. 

Kids might go with what gives them the best results at the time, and falsely believe that this behaviour will see them through adulthood, and cause a ton of problems along the way.