Yesterday, DH and I were riding home from work. We were having a nice conversation when all of a sudden he says,

DH: "I know my kids have problems, but I don't need it shoved in my face all of the time!"
Me: Turns to look at him and calmlysays, "I did not bring up your children"
DH: "I'm just saying, quit shoving them in my face!"
Me: "Where did this come from?"
DH: "Just saying"
Me: Takes a deep breath and speaks calmly....."OK, remember, we do not speak of your children anymore because you cannot be sane and rational about them". And, I changed the subject.

I remained calm the whole time, I was very proud! I have no idea why he started mentioning the adult skids, either. I figure either 1) he talked to one of them and they were on a "crazy trip", or 2) he talked to one of his family who had just talked to one of his kids who was on a "crazy trip".

I really think, he's starting to see the VAST difference between my daughter, her husband and friends, and our friends grown children and his kids. Everyone else's kids have become productive adults and are decent human beings. (and, most of those kids are from broken homes, yet managed to function! Products of good parenting!) You can have a conversation with them, call them for a favor, and just treat them as a PERSON. His kids are not like that.

Beats me...but I'm not playing into his enabling, guilty daddy role anymore. I have a life and it does NOT revolve around the drama his kids create. Let HIM deal with the mess HE made.