My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. I have no children but he has a 5 year old SS and 8 year old SD who live 8 hours from us. Due to financial reasons he has only been able to see his kids for 2 days during Christmas and 4 weeks during the summer. I am not the most "motherly" person but I am really trying to accept his kids (even though every time I look at them I see the BM). I was really excited to see them for Christmas and watch them open presents. We had a great first night. We listened to Christmas Carols, made a gingerbread house and cooked a special dinner. However, on the 2nd day things changed. After they opened there presents (a ridiculous amount - about 25 presentd each) all they did was complain, whine about what they didn't get, get an attitude and beat each other up. Being stuck in a hotel room, they were driving me crazy!

The real problem is that my boyfriend will not discipline them for any reason - I think due to guilt that he doesn't get to see them often. He also stated that this weekend was 100% about the kids and they could do whatever they wanted. What???? You dont' let a 5 and 8 year old do whatever they want!!! So, the daughter ate chocolate until she was sick and spent hours in the bathroom. The SS drank so much Dr. Pepper that he wet the bed a few time then cried about it. Both kids were horrible! They hit each other then lied about it and each probably cried 10 times that day - over nothing at all! The weekend was miserable for me. I believe that kids NEED discipline and both of the kids are getting none so they act like spoiled brats.

I usually keep my mouth shut but after dropping them off and driving home I had to say something after he said it was the best weekend ever. I told him that I was worried about the kids, they seem really unhappy and I think there's a problem. I suggested that he should talk to the BM about the issues. My boyfriend immediately got on the defensive by saying that the kids were perfect and then we didn't speak for the entire 8 hour drive home - that was fun. I really want to make this work but I hate being around these children. I cannot say anything without him getting mad at me. He doesn't have insurance so can't go see a counselor about these issues. I don't know what to do - please help!