Since I've joined this great place, a few things have been pointed out to me. I really thank all of you for your complete honesty and advice. I've seen some blended families with issues, but for the most part, you seem to be in agreement with your spouses, live ins, etc. Mostly your battles are with the ex's and the kids... I on the other hand, am seeing the lack of support from mine. And I'm starting to see how really screwed up we (I mean him) are. Which is unfortunate, because I do love this man. But he has recently crossed some bounderies, and after confronting him, doesn't want to see my side. One of you responded that he didn't tell me, because he doesn't value my opinion. And you are exactly right. I need to be respected, and so does my son... I also feel that his priorities should lie with me. And they haven't. Which brings me to another topic, with me out of the picture his mommy can jump right back in at being his wife and mother. Its hard enough to compete with an ex, its even harder when you add the mother into that equation.