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Is it possible to make a relationship work if the " Love Magic" feeling is gone?

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Submitted by igiveup2 on Sun, 05/27/2012 - 10:56am

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My husband and I are living alone now. SD is in her own apt.SS lives with his girlfriend and my son who is the youngest is now in the air force. I guess so much has happened I some how feel awkward. He will tell me and take my hand and say " You know you are a good woman" I care about you very much. I will tell him the same. So the question I pose is caring for each other enough to keep a marriage together once that special magic feeling is gone? Don't get me wrong we are trying through counciling because SS and SD still find ways to throw rocks in our path. My son is 600 miles away and doing well.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Sun, 05/27/2012 - 11:15am

When I get those moments I imagine my life without him and inside a minute I am a bawling wreck. Yes, I still love him but our quiet getting-alongness and companionship and having each others back and being the best of friends holds us together in those doubtful moments.

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Sun, 05/27/2012 - 3:14pm

Yes. If everyone broke up when the fun wore off we'd all be divorced. Part of being an adult is learning to stick it out when it gets boring or monotanous. Figure out how to get the warm and fuzzies back. It takes effort after a while but having a family is worth it.

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Submitted by Pilgrim Soul on Sun, 05/27/2012 - 5:21pm

I want to be you when i grow up! There is so much you could do to have fun together.
Try something new, something out of character for both of you. Ballroom dancing is a cliche... may be biking, hiking - with a group of other enthusiasts, or anything else your local community college/recreation dept. may offer. No kids in the house, no chores related to kids - woo hoo! Live it up! Magic may come back! Good luck! Keep us posted!