It is done!
Well, my husband moved out of our apartment two weeks ago today (the day the flood hit Nashville). I really do not know what to feel, but I feel like a HUGE weight has been lifted off of me. And although we had talked about him moving out, I did not know he was actually doing it that day. I went to work, and call him (like I always do) on the way home at 3:00, and he told me he moved out. Now, what he did not tell me, was that he took all my stuff, but eh, it can be replaced. Lots of things happened here and there, but it basically boils down to I do not love the kids, and I can not be with him if I do not love his kids.
I just shrugged my shoulders and said "oh well". If you place that much value on them and none on me then that is how it is. I am just tired of discussing it.
Yeah, i still love him. But, not at the risk of being true to myself. Just thought you guys would want to know.
Yeah, i was honestly caught
Yeah, i was honestly caught off by it. He is sharing a duplex with a couple who is friends of his ex-wife, actualy she arrainged the whole thing. Isn't that quaint, huh? And the couple, ughh, what can I say. I have never met them, but the guy does not work, and the woman works customer service and makes hardly anything. They moved out of her mom's house, because the mom kicked them out (not sure why). And they moved in just with clothes and a dvd player, that is it. WTH! And the woman is a mom who does not have custody of her kids, oh great. And she is better than me with kids, yeah right. And he is going to be paying half the rent, and the water bill. Umm okay, that is much better than the 150.00 a month you were giving me. I just do not want to know what is going through his mind. I swaer he has tunnel vision when it comes to the kids.
And I am fine with everything. I am just going to keep on the course that I am on. And let him deal with the heathen beasts of children. I have alot to look forward too, and excited about MY future sans kids. Woohoo.
I was going to at first say,
I was going to at first say, "I'm sorry" to you.
But then I went back and read your past posts.
Sweetie, this is probably the BEST thing that could have happened to you!
You clearly were not happy with this man- he did not respect you and neither did his children.
And on top of that, it sounded like you supported them all financially, too!!!
Right now, you might be hurting inside, because it FEELS like HE abandoned you- like YOU were not good enough for THEM. (Plus, he took your stuff, so now you KNOW deep down he was a nasty creep).
But I'm telling you right now...
he did you a FAVOR!
You are only 35. You have no kids, no baggage. You can now go out and get a LIFE with a man who will put you as #1 in his life. (where you should have been from the start).
And learn fron your mistakes, sweetie...don't ever hook up with a man with kids again!!!
You will get through this!
If we were renting I'd be so
If we were renting I'd be so gone too. I don't know how these men can expect us just to "love" their children immediately esp. after what most these kids and adults put us through. You are better off and you have a good attitude about it.