I have had it!
This is my first time posting here. I really need to just vent about my shitty day and how fed up I am with all the bs with bs with my ss. He is 9 going on 10 and spoiled rotten. He is manipulative and has everyone else fooled, even his therapist. He fakes having anxiety about coming to our house, I think because he doesnt want his mom to think he might actually like being with us. His mom and my husband have been dicorved since he was 2 and she has been bitter ever since. We have ben married since he was 2 as well. He comes to our house every other weekend, well supposed to any way. His mom has him involved in so many sports and extra coriccular activities that he misses a lot of time with us. When he is here he spends a lot of time in the phone talking to his mom and giving her a detailed play by play of what is going on here. My husband has asked him a few times not to do that as it is none of her business what the details are at our house. Anyways, he comes tonight with his grandparents. My husbands mom and her husband had driven in for the weekend. They picked him up and drove him to our house. The grandma mentions how ss mom has lost a lot weight. Ss gives her a look and says " my mom doesnt like me to give out her information here." Wtf?? He gives her every effing detail of our lives here but someones mentions his moms weight loss and it is taboo? Ive had it with her bs!
Perfect opportunity for DH to
Perfect opportunity for DH to tell him that goes for giving BM information about your house too!
He doesnt have his own phone
He doesnt have his own phone but would instead ask us several times a day to call his mom. He recently got a kid smartwatch from his mom so he can text and call her. I dont feel like I should take it from him unless it becomes a problem. We gave him some rules for it while he is here.
He doesnt have his own phone
He doesnt have his own phone but would instead ask us several times a day to call his mom. He recently got a kid smartwatch from his mom so he can text and call her. I dont feel like I should take it from him unless it becomes a problem. We gave him some rules for it while he is here.
Either you accept that he's
Either you accept that he's reporting everything to his mother, or you take his communications away, it's that easy, if he can't follow the rules that's the consequences.
SS asking multi pal times a day to call Mum... you can say NO, no law against that, simply say, SS we can call her after dinner.. end of conversation
I am kinda is the same spot,
I am kinda is the same spot, read "At the end of my rope" I think in my case it is because we have rules at our house, like you have to pick up after yourself, and don't say you don't like a vegetable before you taste it. I also think their mom gives them the 3rd degree when they get home, which is something we don't do. We actually told the boys we will not be involved in playing one parent against the other, so unless you are in danger or you have a basic need not being met we do not want to hear what is going on at your mothers. To bad she can not be grown up enough to be the same way. Good luck.