I don’t know what to do
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My DH and I have been just over a year and he has two children from a previous relationship. Lately I can do nothing right and feel like he treats the kids way way better than me. I’m feeling lonely and lost. But when I try to talk to him and let him know how it’s making me feel I end up emotionally exhausted and in tears. I may not have the best relationship with my skids but I’m trying every day to get better with it. I make mistakes all the time with them but I shouldn’t be treated like I am.
Same, girl.
It's hard. I know. You feel like you do so much for everyone, but becuase you don't have the title of "mom" or "dad," it doesn't matter. Hang in there. I know the bigger picture is hard to see. I have to step back and remind myself of that all the time. While right now you might be the bad guy, in the long run, you are benefiting the skids the most. You ARE a parent. I'm willing to bet, based off of your level of concern, you're a better parent than BM and DH. I had strict parents growing up, and I didn't always like it. Now, I see the value in it, and I am grateful I had people who cared so much about the person I was going to grow up to be. You may not get the gratitude now, but it will be there, it is there. We, as step parents who care, are very important to kids from broken homes. Keep your chin up, momma. Your day will come. *Hugs*
Have you tried counseling
Have you tried counseling with him?
Some. Helped a little bit.
Some. Helped a little bit.
Maybe try again? Blended
Maybe try again? Blended famlies suck, to be honest. If it weren't for my own bios that I got out of my marriage, I can't say that it has been worth it. It's one headache after another! You could also try counseling on your own and try to determine if this is the right relationship for you, and if you truly want to stay. Best of luck.
Have you considered that this
Have you considered that this might not be the relationship for you? If you can’t talk to your partner about how you feel, that is a fundamental problem.
You say that you are trying hard to make things better. Is he?
I don’t want to just write
I don’t want to just write off my marriage like it never even happened. I think this may be just a rough spot for us.
I hope it is just a rough
I hope it is just a rough spot. It will take both of you to fix it, and that means he has to hear you. Sound like thus far he has not been willing to do that.
If counseling has helped before, it might again. Certainly worth trying.