I can't stand my SS. Read to leave. Living Abroad.
Three days before my DH and I got married, his son was dropped off at the door and we havent'havent't heard from her since. I was extremely ecstatic about taking him as my own son and just raising him together. He didn't see his dad for about a year. He's only 2. I feel extremely guilty because I completely resent him. His dad knows how I feel and just accepts. If DH was like that with my daughter, I would have been long gone. I feel like it is my responsibility to leave because I don't want to emotionally damage him. The problem is, I'm living abroad and would like to go back to the USA. I'm living in my husband's home. I never thought I could feel this way. I was so set on being this kid's mother figure and now I don't even want to look at him. He is extremely whiney. I know he's two, but my daught was a very happy two year old. I don'don't want to deal with him. Whrn hes left with me during the day, he behaves well and is tolerable. When his dad comes home he becomes a monster. He whines and cries about everything. He poops all over himself. I'm over this kid. I don'don't want to leave my husband, but I don't want to deal with his kid for the rest of my life.
I am going to try and not
I am going to try and not sound like a bitch here, but wow. So, a 2 year old gets dumped on you and abandoned by his mother and you are upset because he is whiney and not potty trained? He is still a baby for goodness sakes!! If this kid was 6,7,8 I would get it. But the poor kid is 2! You need to be the one to grow up here. He still has a shot of growing up normal. He just needs to be loved and if you can't do that then leave now before you cause any more damage and he grows up to remember that 2 mom's abandoned him as a young child.
Little boys tend to be
Little boys tend to be whinier and weaker. Something about the extra chromosome. If you find yourself abusing him, then PLEASE let somebody know. I agree with overworked mom. What I would have given to have been able to raise my Skidz from the baby stage WITHOUT the influence of their psycho BM! With a supportive DH you have the opportunity to mother this child and form a loving bond. Again, if you are cruel either emotionally or physically to this innocent child, then by all means. Run…don't walk….before you hurt him.
I'm not sure what to say. You
I'm not sure what to say. You don't say anything except he's whiny, so I don't understand how you could be ecstatic, such a short time ago but now wish the child was gone? And you have a child, so you should have some understanding of toddlers and their needs and how each child is different. I'm not being bitchy either, just telling you that I'm scratching my head on this one.
Is this about your regrets over your marriage to your husband? Because if it is, you SHOULD leave now and let this baby have a chance with someone who will love him. If it isn't, then please look deep within yourself to see why you're focusing such unpleasantness on a very young child.
His mom left him on your
His mom left him on your doorstep...poor little guy. You need to remember a couple things, 1. No child is the same 2. He's a toddler. Some toddlers have a hard time dealing with emotions. SD is super whiney, especially when her dad is around. I strongly believe that some kids act differently when their parent is around. It doesn't make them a bad kid they just need to learn that whining doesn't get them anywhere. Be patient with him. He is soooo young. If you don't want to be influential role in his life then you need to leave. If you can't handle the situation, then you need to leave. I'm sure it will get better with time.
Right?! This doesn't seem
Right?! This doesn't seem real to me either. It reminds me of those scams people pull to give them money.