I am looking for some advice in Canada...
I live in Canada and haven't received child support from my ex-husband in over a year. I just never made much fuss about it as we got along quite well and I didn't want to "rock the boat". I thought it was more important for us to get along for the childrens sake.
Well, he has a girlfriend now, he has a child(1 year old) with her and they had broken up for a while but just moved in together again this month. I had tried to call his cell phone yesterday as he was 4 1/2 hours late to get the children on Christmas Day. The cell phone has been disconnected. So, when he arrived to get the kids I said "before you go I need your new phone number and address". He refused to give them to me, unbelievable isn't it? He said his girlfriend didn't want me to know where they live or the number so even though it upset the kids, I wouldn't let him take them. I still can't believe that he left without them rather than give me the address and phone number. This morning he called again and gave me the phone number but still not the address, he did come and pick up the kids just for the night.
Just to be clear I am remarried and 9 weeks pregnant and I am the one that filed for divorce from him 3 years ago. I have no interest in stalking him nor do I care what he does with who and when he does it. I am just concerned that if they were yelling and screaming at each other again and my kids called me I wouldn't even know where to go to pick them up.
I am going to the courthouse tomorrow but I'm not sure where to start. I want 3 things,
1)full custody for me with visitation for him.
2)all child support that is owed
3)his address
If anyone can help me I'd apprieciate it.
Thanks.
I wish I could give you
Canadian advice but I have none. Here in Colorado both parents are required by law to inform the other parent of any residential changes and phone number changes. I have a right to know where my children are as does he AND the right to have reasonable contact with the children. I would think that would be pretty standard anywhere.
I would've done the same as you. I would never release my children not knowing where their destination is. Your ex and his girlfriend are being completely unreasonable. There has to be some sort of compromise on his part. If he doesn't want you at his home, then he can pick a meeting place OR he can do ALL the drop offs/pickups. But you still have the right to that address otherwise he needs to take you to court and convince a judge why you are not entitled to know where he lives. Not only that, he doesn't think the kids will tell you? What's he going to do...blindfold them when he's pulling in the driveway?
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
I agree, that's a pretty standard request.
You have a right to know where your children are and how to reach them in the event of an emergency. As for the CS, you're owed what you're owed and that's a no-brainer to me, too, but be prepared for some backlash when you try to collect it.
~ Anne ~
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Steve Doocy, The Mr. and Mrs. Happy Handbook