I am a Chinese, being in US for one year, have a daughter about 10 months old. My husband has 3 kids with ex,SD13, SS10,SD9. Before coming here, I just know every week my husband has to pay Childsupport to their mom who never worked again since she knew she was pregnant at first time.They are my husband kids too, no complaint about paying childsupport money. The proplem is that about 100 days a year, kids are here, and we still have to pay to their mom. My husband told me it's law, even unfair, we still can do nothing about it, and I accept it. What makes me unhappy is that we pay 260 a week and we have very good reason to believe their mom spend money on her, not kids. It made me mad when I see kids wearing unsuitable clothes, shoes or vey old ones. SS10 even wore the shirt of her second husband's, who is about 1.8m tall. SD9 wear pants more than 8cm longer and even her shoes perfect suit me. When I told them to wear clothes or that suit them, they said they'll grow to it and save money. But what they did is to bring clothes here to their mom and bring back when they are old. We need not buy any clothes for kids, but what happened before is SD lost his shoes while being here and their mom sued (a lot funny stories here), to avoid any further trouble, my husband said he will buy clothes and some other things here so that kids won't have to bring here and lost them.

Kid's mom told them a lot bad things about their dad. They've been divored over 6 years, kids did not know that actually their dad raise them, everything their mom bought actually from their dad.

Since my husband has to work while kids are here. Most of time I take care of them and grandma come to help most of time during summer holiday. They are good kids, but a lot habbits I really dislike. SD13 can never finish her plate when eating, even eating well-done bacon, she will leave some and said it's fat;Eating bread, she always take eges off and threw away. SD10 always make a mess about his toys, his toys are everywhere, even I told him to put up before going back to their mom, he did, but still I could find some here or their. SD9 is my favorite, I even told my husband I'd like to have her. She is smart, talented in sports. If she is with me, I'd spend more time with her, teaching her a lot things and get her trained in sports and she'd difinitely have a bright future. The proplem with her is that she is messy, always threw clothes, towels on floor, that's the proplem with SD13 too.

When they are here, always a lot more housework to do. My daughter is 10 months now and I am ready to look for a job, that means I would not clean up like before. I made some rules about them taking care of their mess, generally SD9 and SS10 listens. SD13, sometimes I even feel she is tring to fool me. Like last night, she was watching MOVIE on TV, I told her to turn off her computer during advertisment, she went back to girl's room immediately. But later when I pick up my daughter in girl's room, I found she did nothing about her computer. I turn it off and told her she did not turn it off, so I did it. She pretend did not hearing me, no respondense, and then my husband ask her whether she heared me, she said she thought she turned it off. Sometimes I am not feeling comfortable with this one. Now she moved computer screen to the otherside and sitting on SD9'S bed while surfing net. Further more, she used a blacket to make a curtain and completely "seal"her in a small space. I want to tell her I don't like what she did, want her move computer back, but don't know how to say it.