I hurt DHs feelings tonight. I totally hate that. SS14 hasn't talked to DH in awhile, so he finally texted BM to find out if SS lost his phone. Shockingly, BM took his phone for poor school performance. BM has always been a Disney CP until SS lived here a year and almost destroyed our marriage. Needless to say I'm disengaged with day to day dealings and only involve myself with financial stuff as I manage all our$.

So BM had SS call DH to "talk" about his lack of school performance, etc. as the call is winding down DH asks if SS wants to say hi to everyone (we are at my I laws). I say no thanks I'm talking (texting) to my mom. Unfortunately I don't have anything to say to SS. I'm not going to chastise him for his school performance and the pleasantries of how was your thanksgiving was not something I wanted to engage in.

And now DH is hurt and sulking. I know he wants us to have a better relationship, but after all the shit I went through when SS lived here, I have to take anxiety meds just to get through his visits. I'm already not looking forward to the 2 weeks he'll be here for Christmas, and I'm hoping to be able to escape with my mom since she's spending the holiday with us too. I just hate hurting his feelings when I remind him how I feel about SS.