I have 3 biological children who phone me at home or on my mobile. If my husband should pick up either phone my children will talk to him, about sport or whatever ask about work or his health if he has been ill. He will then pass the phone to me and I will have my conversation with them......right there in front of my husband. However, up until August this year when they have stopped calling except during working hours when he is at work, whenever either of his sons called (which was rarely) my husband would just take the call like a normal person, when his daughter called, well you could see the fear in his eyes when he say her name come up on the mobile. She would not ring at home in case I would answer, she tried ringing home twice and both times I answered and both times she hung up, and yes I do know it was her because we have caller ID. Anyway getting back to how he responded to his daughters calls, he would answer as he was walking out the back door, then he would go down the back of the yard to talk to her or if it was too cold he would leave and go into another room. This invariably led to huge fights between us because I could not understand the need for privacy and secsrecy every single time his daughter called, and I also felt not only was he being rude to me, but he would do this when we had visitors even friends he had over from work. It was embarrassing. However he would always refuse to acknowledge it was rude, and always, always, always turn it around and say "You just don't want me to talk to my kids." There was never any acknowledgement from him that I never had a problem when he spoke to his sons, because he didn't do it outside or behind closed doors and it would be normal for me to wonder why he felt the need to speak in low tones and usually outside only when his daughter called. This practice didn't make me mad or angry it infuriated me. He has sat back for years and allowed his childen to ignore me completely to not include me in anything and to act as though I didn't exist and this type of conversation was to my mind just him doing exactly the same thing to me as his childen were doing. I know him well enough to know if I was taking sneaky calls out in the backyard with my kids he would be livid. Also, I guess apart from the rudeness the fact that this type of behaviour only occurred with his daughter was creepy to me, it was almost as if he was having an affair with another woman the way he behaved with her calls. Still as time has gone on I have come to see that he did that because she talks really loudly in person and on the phone because she likes to be the center of attention, and she constantly demands things from daddy, so I guess he was just protecting her because I had told him on many occassions I did not think the way she yelled at him and verbally abused him whenever she spoke to him, was not right especially since she was always tryinng to get him to do something or buy something for her. I thought she needed to ask and speak politely, he always defended her and said she did not yell at him Yeah right. So I think he took the calls outside so I couldn't hear what her next demand was each time. Long story short - it is rude and it is wrong.

I have 3 biological children who phone me at home or on my mobile. If my husband should pick up either phone my children will talk to him, about sport or whatever ask about work or his health if he has been ill. He will then pass the phone to me and I will have my conversation with them......right there in front of my husband. However, up until August this year when they have stopped calling except during working hours when he is at work, whenever either of his sons called (which was rarely) my husband would just take the call like a normal person, when his daughter called, well you could see the fear in his eyes when he say her name come up on the mobile. She would not ring at home in case I would answer, she tried ringing home twice and both times I answered and both times she hung up, and yes I do know it was her because we have caller ID. Anyway getting back to how he responded to his daughters calls, he would answer as he was walking out the back door, then he would go down the back of the yard to talk to her or if it was too cold he would leave and go into another room. This invariably led to huge fights between us because I could not understand the need for privacy and secsrecy every single time his daughter called, and I also felt not only was he being rude to me, but he would do this when we had visitors even friends he had over from work. It was embarrassing. However he would always refuse to acknowledge it was rude, and always, always, always turn it around and say "You just don't want me to talk to my kids." There was never any acknowledgement from him that I never had a problem when he spoke to his sons, because he didn't do it outside or behind closed doors and it would be normal for me to wonder why he felt the need to speak in low tones and usually outside only when his daughter called. This practice didn't make me mad or angry it infuriated me. He has sat back for years and allowed his childen to ignore me completely to not include me in anything and to act as though I didn't exist and this type of conversation was to my mind just him doing exactly the same thing to me as his childen were doing. I know him well enough to know if I was taking sneaky calls out in the backyard with my kids he would be livid. Also, I guess apart from the rudeness the fact that this type of behaviour only occurred with his daughter was creepy to me, it was almost as if he was having an affair with another woman the way he behaved with her calls. Still as time has gone on I have come to see that he did that because she talks really loudly in person and on the phone because she likes to be the center of attention, and she constantly demands things from daddy, so I guess he was just protecting her because I had told him on many occassions I did not think the way she yelled at him and verbally abused him whenever she spoke to him, was not right especially since she was always tryinng to get him to do something or buy something for her. I thought she needed to ask and speak politely, he always defended her and said she did not yell at him Yeah right. So I think he took the calls outside so I couldn't hear what her next demand was each time. Long story short - it is rude and it is wrong.

Oi Vey I don't have to tell him I am the most important but I do remind him from time to time because I am the most important person in his life and yes I have him completely whipped drives you crazy as BM doesn't it??????!!!!!????? It works for us and I quite frankly Idon't treat him like a nutless child and I don't treat him like you treat everyone on this board who is not a BM loving person. So please don't try to make me feel bad just go back to feeding your rabbit named thumper who is part of your blended family!!!

And seriously if you have nothing constructive to say to me and want to only start trouble do it to someone who has not been on here over a year because I am not afraid of your 2 edged sword of a tongue!!