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He is not holding up his part of the deal ugh

georgie's picture

SD 10 is spoiled and never has had any rules. She has been living with us for 4 months now and my fiance lets her get away with murder. She is clingy and needs to be entertained the whole dang day, if we want to watch a tv show, or hold an adult conversation she will just not give us 5 minutes to ourselves.
It's a huge problem for me, I am not her toy! She doesn't like other kids. It's just Dad and Georgie all day long.She can't do anything by herself , nothing.Won't read, won't draw a picture, I have never seen a child like this.
She stays up until we go to bed, we have no couple time-at all. He won't even hug me anymore, I just feel like a live in maid, no one helps me with the household chores, I do everything around here by myself.

He promised me he would change after countless time of me explaining to him, this is not healthy for her nor for us and our realtionship.

He is just all talk, when it comes down to it he won't act. He overdid it today tough, I spent the morning with her doing girlie stuff, like hair etc we then cooked lunch together, played in the yard, while he messed with his car. So now he gave in and lets her go to work with us tonight...WTF? So not even at work I can have my peace now? I took him to the side and asked him about it, now he is not speaking to me anymore, not one word? What? I am so angry at him, he is pouting because he is not holding up to the deal he agreed to?

I have disengaged before, then we had a big talk, so I came around again and now the same crap starts again. Now I have to go to work with the princess in tow ARGH :O

What would you do now? How can I get it thru to him?

folkmom's picture

stop doing the chores.

stop entertaining her.

take yourself out of the house...and leave for the day. let him deal with her. she IS HIS KID.

NachoMama's picture

Yeah I would have to stop doing EVERYTHING around the house for them...that would drive me nuts! I say treat yourself to a girls day or night out and enjoy yourself!!!

****I can do bad all by myself****

georgie's picture

That's exactly it, if you give her your little finger she takes the whole hand. The more attention she gets the more she demands.She gets carried away. She just can't get enough and it drives me insane. I feel like I am slowly giving up my own self.
Unfortunatly my fiance is not on the same page with me and sees nothing wrong with it. He says she grew up this way and he does not mind.
I think it's selfish of him. I don't like him very much at the moment when I look at him I just want to slap him.
Yesterday I told him, no she can't go with us to work, in front of her he tells me yes she can.
Like I predicted she already said, oh now I will go every weekend -and she will.
I am at a point of just not caring anymore and spend my free time in the bedroom.
I moved here to be with him, I have no friends here nor family, so girls night, or even coffee with friends is not an option, what have I gotten myself into Sad