I am so glad I have found this site. I know no it is ok to actually "dislike" a child and just want to beat the living "sh**" out of another human being.

I was married for 16 years and divorced for 6. My X remarried and to much of everyone's surprise, His wife and i got along great. She was a great SM to my 2 kids and the communication between my X and her concerning the kids was great. Yes there were time when i wanted to hall off and deck her, but I always told myself that all it does is put the kids in the middle. My 2 kids are older now and out of the house.

3 years ago I met a wonderful man from the neighboring state and we just celebrated our 1 year anniversary Last May.

My DH has been divorced for 5 years. He basically left the marriage with his clothes in hand and his truck. He agreed to continue to pay for a camper that was on a 401K loan and not take any of the equity in there home when she refinanced (mom and dad had to co-sign). Basically she got everything. The BM is a nagging, self centered, money hungry "christian" (sorry if I have affended anyone". She of course hates me and although I have gone out of my way to be a good step parent to my sd14, she has just made our lives miserable. She defaulted on a credit card bill and dh had to borrow once again on his 401 K loan. Well 3 months ago after 23 years at his job he was laid off. With that, the loans came due and now we owe over 4,000 in taxes. I now have to tell my brohter I cannot contribute to my parents 50th wedding anniversary party. I went to the BM mother to ask if we could claim the SD14 this year in order to beable to pay for the taxes. Of course that was a no no. I actually said things that have been bottled up in me for sometime now. My dh does stand up to her and like he said "she as ususal" has the upper hand. She chooses to work at a low paying job because she knows her support pays the house payment and I am sure other bills.

I am in my middle 40's and I just am to exhausted to deal with all of this financial stuff that is affecting our lives. I have been paying the CS since he has been laid off as i am told her state will eventually hit his unemployment. (he worked in that state).

I have started to resent my SD14 and just hate to even look at her. I hate my DH for gettig me into this financial nightmare. I just feel like I should have never gotten involved with a man who had kids. I am better off getting a divorce.

Can anyone help me.