Has anyone gotten to this point?
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I really do love dh but have gotten to the point that I don't know if we should or will be together. I am tired of sd and her nonsense and the drama with bm. I am really stuck and not sure which way to turn does it ever get better? Also another question how does custody change? Dh has in the divorce agreement that he has sole custody with bm having supervised visits she thinks that now that she has been clean for 3 months they are in joint custody. Does it work like that? I have started disengaging but there are still things I help out with. But how do you disengage with a child that lives with you full time without becoming resentful? Sorry that was a lot of rambling but would love some advice. Thanks all!
Sure it works like that...IF
Sure it works like that...IF you're a drug addled BM.
Naw, she would have to petition the court for a modification.
So she couldnt just go to a
So she couldnt just go to a lawyer and change paperwork, I should look at the paperwork and see if it had a timeline. I'm pretty sure it didn't!
Can you please beat that into
Can you please beat that into my Ex's head? He actually tried to tell me today that because the most recent order "wasn't the order I agreed to" that the current court order didn't matter and he should get to decide when my holiday time began and ended!
I didn't think so either but
I didn't think so either but both bm and her parents believe this dillusion!
Clean for 3 whole months????
Clean for 3 whole months???? While that is a step in the right direction, it is likely too soon for a judge to even consider her petition.
Just have DH know his court order completely, make sure the appropriate people (school, day care, doctors) have a copy of that section and clear instructions that BM is not allowed to make any decisions or take the children at any time.
Thank u for that those are
Thank u for that those are very good points and I will tell him to get the paperwork to the appropriate places. While I agree with you that it is a step in the right direction and everyone has to start somewhere, she seems to think that 3 months grants her mother of the year. Dh told her she could have her for Christmas but he wanted her for Halloween. She whined and complained that she wanted her for Halloween too so looks like dh is going to give in take her out here then drive her to her moms so she can see her wtf??? Give her an inch..... Oh and btw did I mention she had her license revoked because of her drug use...., sigh!!!!
No, it doesn't get any
No, it doesn't get any better...13 months w/SD & SO & I don't even speak anymore if we can avoid it...is this how you want your life to Be..? Better luck to you!
Take baby steps and be
Take baby steps and be satisfied with the day to day progress. It is not an easy job being a stepmom.