Has anyone else here read the book "Step Wars"?
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The book is by Grace Gabe,MD and Jean Lipman-Blumen, PhD.
I picked it up about a year ago when things got so bad with my SD and she finally sent me a message telling me that she didn't give a damn about me.
Although it is written from the perspective of dealing with adult step-children, it has wonderful advice and takes situations and deals with them from the perspective of both the step-parent and the stp-child.
I really got a lot from the book, and would highly recommend it to anyone here that is struggling. 
Trust me, she enjoys being
Trust me, she enjoys being vicious and has no conscience when it comes to me, nor hurting her father for that matter.
She is closer to her mother-in-law than anyone, I think. MIL visits around once a month (her other son works for an airline, thus they get dirt cheap flights), and appears to literally run things. It was MIL's instigation that caused the original drama between us leading to my husband asking my SD to move out. Because she reemed her son out for me calling leaving a message for my SD, the son-in-law got on my SD case, and they both came to our house to reem me out.
I and other family members have commented that she better hope to God that nothing happens to her marriage. Otherwise, she will be in for the fight of her live for custody of her two kids. Her in-laws have got lots of $$ to back up their son, and trust me, they won't let those kids go without a fight. SD has turned her back on her father's family, so I doubt they will be there for her. Karma can be a bitch.
Well, that has been my
Well, that has been my feeling all along. In many ways, they are cut from the same cloth - the world revolves around them. Will be interesting to see what happens when first they clash.. }:)