We have had a GAL appointed since 11/09, because BM refused to agree to have BF have 50/50 custody. She, the GAL, is a nice person, but personally she is a waste of money. We pay 80% of her fee's because BM is sooo "poor". It was originally 92% so I guess we should feel "happy". The last court appearance in the spring, we won 50/50 custody and BF was also given final medical decision making. The Judge also found BM to be guilty of PAS, because of the custody evaluation that was done by the forensic psychiatrist. BM was warned that if she continued down that path of PAS, she would be losing her children.

Well she continued to PAS SD12 and successfully estranged her daughter from BF. SD's behavior was out of control and police were called by BM everytime we had her. SD damaged property, ran away, BM would speak with her on the phone encouraging to run away, disrespectful, cursing, hit her BF...you name it SD did it and was rewarded by BM for it! It was so bad here BF told SD to not come here because of her behavior. Well, then BM claimed BF was in contempt by not taking her.

BM immediately began working on the SS's with the PAS. So BF filed a motion for court again to straighten out the SD situation so he's not in contempt, he is looking to reduce CS because we have the SS's more and he is filing sole custody of them as well because of the PAS.

The GAL wants to meet with the SS's, probably to get an update on what's happening since the new custody arrangement and to feel out the crap BM is feeding the GAL about us. Until the appt happens the BM is going to into over drive on the brainwashing them what to say to her. BM is notorious for bringing each child into her bedroom and question them separately about our weekend with them, like interigation!

In addition to that the GAL wants us to bring the DVD "Welcome Back Pluto" on alienation. BM's pissed that we showed this to the SS's, watched it with them and talked about different things that they noticed about what happened to their sister. The SS's (10 &11) were smart enough to figure out who was the favored parent and the rejected parent. We also gave them the permission to say that if either home was speaking negatively about the parent or step parent that they had the right to tell us to stop.

BF is bringing them to the GAL's office with the DVD. Part of me feels like I want to write a letter to her about what happened with SD, the DVD, and the SS's. I know she will only question the SS's and not even speak with BF,me or the BM's SO. She speaks with the BM because the BM is always got something to say about us. BF is a man of few words and I feel like doesn't get all the facts out there.

My question is, would you write a letter or just leave it alone? I really do love these boys and BM isn't looking out for there best interest, only her own.

Suggestions please...