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MS007's picture

Submitted by MS007 on Mon, 07/13/2015 - 4:16am

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I am faced with such a difficult situation.

I am not sure if I should file for divorce or not.

I only got married in Feb 2015 I have been well aware of the BM and her tantrums the problems are just not going away and she is no where near calming down.

We are constantly faced with legal matters when she does not get her way I cannot handle the stress anymore and was admitted into hospital twice this year for stress.

I am married to the best husband in the world and definitely the best father. The two minor children reside with us and the BM has always done as she pleased i.e she has never paid maintenance as per the agreement or fetched them as per the agreement but we have always left her.

Do I stay in this situation as it is or would a divorce be the answer I have no kids of my own and feel that it would be a clean break for me.

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Submitted by jssdallas on Mon, 07/13/2015 - 11:50am

Gosh, I don't know. I think you could leave. Or see if boundaries can be created and enforced. UGh. STINKS. You don't need to be sick because of this situation

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Submitted by ChiefGrownup on Mon, 07/13/2015 - 12:15pm

How are the kids, decent?

When the cockeyed parenting gets on my last nerve, which is mainly a BM/SD15 issue, sometimes I remember I'm not going to let a little pissant and a failed adult take from me this wonderful man who is so good to me and makes me happy. Since you speak so highly of your dh, perhaps remind yourself of that, do you want that person to be able to take him from you?

On the other hand you are not living a good life, you're going to the ER every few weeks over the stress. Maybe you are simply not strong enough to thrive in steplife.

There are good strategies, especially if you have a great dh and decent skids, to reduce your stress. Ripley mentioned some of them.