I'm not a step parent, rather the live-in girlfriend of a wonderful man, who is currently going through a now NASTY divorce (even though they have been split up for almost a year, just too lazy and broke to put steps into motion.)
I have been friends with him and his soon-to-be ex for months, as they were in the process of splitting up (still living together, but finalizing new living and financial arrangements, and she was rarely in the home over night,) however she was my best friend, and he was my boyfriend. Let me explain that the BM is the one who fixed up her ex with me, and fully supported our relationship, giving her blessing on me moving in with him as soon as she could 'get away from him.' I was included at their childrens' (2 daughters, one 3yo and the other 5yo) functions, I babysat them, went through nightly routines with them when either parent was not able, even had the 5yo ASK for me to be the one to tuck her in at night, given the choice among myself, her father, or her mother.
The BM started getting more and more socially dramatic as time went on, excpecting me to side with her on trivial matters between her and her other friends, bad mouthing her ex (my current) and his parents, etc. Now, I have a low bullsh*t tolerance, and finally told her that I would have to distance myself from her for awhile, as her flair for the dramatic was just too much. That day, while packing her belongings, my ex went to the condo to receive the cable box (in his and my name) and she went psychotic to the point that he had to take her phone from her to have his parents remove the children from the situation. When he did so, she screamed to the children, "Did you see what daddy just did? That's STEALING, and stealing is WRONG!" She then began to scream that he was abusing her, that I 'won her life' etc. She called the police, who told her she had to vacate the premise immediately since she already had an alternate place of residence available to her. The landlord and police told my boyfriend to change the locks ASAP.
Now, I live in the condo with him on the nights that he doesn't have the girls, which is only 3 nights a week, as we don't want the girls to see a new mommy figure in their lives so soon after the traumatic experience through which they've just been.
My concern is that I am going to get dragged into court by their BM, who now says I am unsafe around her children, which makes no sense to me, as her children told me they loved me constantly, and she trusted me with their lives less than 24 hours before her psychotic break, and I'm also concerned about her bad mouthing me to the children, who lives I DO want to be in. She claims I'm unfit, however her behavior is highly promiscuous, she is an extremely filthy housekeeper, and she'll let ANYONE around her children.
Has anyone dealt with similar instances? I'm beyond drained from her antics, and I just want the munchkins back in my life with as little damage done as possible