Hi All,

I'm new. I ha a child of own and 3 step-children who live in diff state. We only see them periodically but i sent gifts/letters/make phone calls ect to stay in contact and try and build a good foundation to no avail. I dont get responses, no thank you letters, no calls or emails. I understand I'm maybe expecting a lot but my own child goes out of her way to make these kids feel welcome. I feel burned out after they leave, I dont think they are properly parented, have bad habit ect. Why cant i like them? That coupled with the fact that my hubby pays more child support than he legally should, pays for all med/dental/vacation costs for them to see us which is fine but I dont get to go on a vaca, or take my child to disneyland because all of our expedential costs are tied up. Ahhhhhhhhhh I love my guy but I wish i could love his kids and his financial baggage too. Any words of advice are welcome.