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BM decides to gossip to the skids about yesterdays Closed Court hearing re CS, then kids FB about it to everyone???? WTF?

liks's picture

So yesterday DH was dragged back to court by the bitch BM...she wants more money...OMG...she is pathetic but what is more pathetic is how she has gossiped and discussed from her perspective, about such a day in court to her horrible kids/my step kids who both my DH and I now do not see - PASed out to the extreme...

Skids then facebook how DAD is getting what he deserves or some shit....

OK...In the country I am from....YOU are forbidden to discuss court and its proceedings to anyone..and that it can be punishable by law if you have been found to do so....

My DH felt he had no reason to mention to his mother/father or sister that he was being dragged back to court over CS - he likes to keep things like that to himself...and I respect him for that...I as a banker believe its just a monetry case and therefore is private and not open for discussion...

However, the skids, decided to call up the MIL/SIL and their cusins and give their view of what occured in court as per what their lunitic mother had told them....

My question is....is this not a law, that in this country you are forbidden to discuss closed court matters?

If it is...who do I report such a matter....

My husband is really distressed that this has occured...and so am I....God only knows what BS the bitch told them revolting skids

I think its an invasion of someones privacy, myself.

Anyone had anything similiar occur to them?

aggravated1's picture

I don't think it is a law. I think you can have it added to the court order, that BM is not to discuss these matters with the minor children, but that's about it. We have one of those court orders, though, and it isnt worth the paper its printed on.

skylarksms's picture

Yeah, I would definitely take screen shots for the next court hearing. Unfortunately, with the crazies we deal with, it seems like there is ALWAYS a NEXT court hearing!

donna123's picture

BM is a wicked nasty person that is for sure. How many times have we been told by professionals that these kinds of court conversations should not be shared with the children until they are MUCH older-- if ever. As far as I am concerned BM has violated boundaries hugely, even if she was careless enough to leave the documents out for the children to see. For BM to encourage the minor children to contact DH's family members either covertly or overtly is beyond nasty and immature. Get the screen shots and discuss this outcome with your lawyer immediately.

I am sure there are sanctions that can be taken, and if nothing more at least BM’s evil little attempts at parental alienation will be on record. The woman needs to grow a brain and a heart. She also needs to learn that PA is child abuse. Stupid, STUPID woman! Maybe at least now you finally caught her in the act. Don't let this go by unchallenged.

liks's picture

See what you are saying .... however, this does seem like a direct attempt at PAS by the BM that can be easily documented....info for the next court appearance....btw BM has always dragged the skids into her issues with me and DH - including past court cases....its really bazzaar.....and yes I believe she is doing it for no other reason but to keep the child soldiers in her army....and keep them motivated by hate towards my DH and his family....

I think she bungs it on to gain the most affect by manipulating their brains to stay on her side....she is actually jealous that the skids will wont to be with us...they both actually tried...the youngest in particular was very difficult for her to recruit....

HadEnoughx5's picture

Has your Dh ever gone to court about the parental alienation? Our BM was scheduling activities during Dh's parenting time, she was allowing the eldest at age 9 decide whether she wanted to go to Dh's for custody time, BM shared court information with the skids, shared financial information with the skids, brainwashed the skids etc.

At an emergency court hearing, BM was telling SD that she did not have to go on vacation with us. The Judge reamed her a new asshole. And told BM she could "smell" alienation.

We have had a GAL in our case and a custody evaluator. We are going back to court to get full custody of the 2 skids who are not totally PAS'd. The updated evacuation does not look good for BM.

I would document everything that happens and try and get custody if it is not too late.

liks's picture

We spoke with the lawyer about it but he suggests it would be difficult to prove and you would need a lot of evidence - not worth it bc at the end of the day we are talking a 17 yo dickbrain and a 14 yo know it all....Once the brats turn 12 they can choose if they go to visitations to their fathers or not...and you know what....I really do not want them living with us full time as they are somewhat delinquent, and getting worse. We were going to go down that track but BM dug her claws in further to the skids and they became more and more difficult..refuse to listen to their father wen asked to do something...sat on the couch providing back to base info to the BM on what Im doing, what Im drinking, what Im cooking...wot the father is doing etc....then one day I walked into the bedroom from being in the shower and I found them in our closet looking for money?? my clothes? wot ever they could find....then one day I watched the older one breaking my indoor palms...just bent the stems in half, they broke so many other items of ours....sat in the car spitting at each other, tried to burn the house down, shot at my cat, tried to slash the RV, oh many other weird actions.....unless I was a trained psychologist...how am I supposed to deal with children like that...and of course the father is the typical guilty dad...has no idea how to stop their bad behaviour

they are a nightmare....disgusting in fact, and I really do not want them around my children as my daughter was really upset with the way they were bullying her-as for my eldest son who moved back to australia bc of their horrible attitude...he is busting at the bit to knock the little shits out....my youngest son was being brainwashed by them...so...yeah...

Last I heard the elder ss was an atheist, and followed hitler....the younger one just talks about women as sluts and how they are only good for sucking cock...

their mother is a lunatic and recently turned lesbian....

Anon2009's picture

I agree with the others- get screen shots of these FB postings. They could come in handy for court.

I thank my mom often for not doing these things to me when I was growing up, and not putting me in the middle of any issues she had with my dad and stepmother. It just isn't fair to the kids to put them in the middle of your issues with their other parent/stepparent. Kids are smart and can figure out their parents'/stepparents' weaknesses on their own.

HadEnoughx5's picture

I'm sorry, I didn't know all that info. I understand where your'e coming from. My SD put us all through hell too. I couldn't stand her being around and felt like I was walking on eggshells like everyone else in our home. She was destructive and damaged a lot of our things in addition to being disrespectful to us by swearing, hitting and screaming. It was freak'in hell.

Finally Dh told her she was no longer allowed in our home because she couldn't be civil, respectful and follow rules. BM successfully PAS'd her and is working on the next 2. This time we are fighting for full custody in hopes to "rescue" them before it's too late. If they were like her, I would have definitely discouraged my Dh.

liks's picture

Yeah Blueswan, its not nice....I was told to request the BM get psych assessed for court. Due to the fact you feel the propblems have existed for no other reason but bc the bm cannot accept her ex husbands new relationship and in her inability to accept this relationship she has negatively influenced the children to hate you.....

that you cannot proceed with a court case with such immature attitudes of bm....