I am a 25 year old who has an 11 year old SS whom i adore and love like he is my own! I have no other children and he is my fiance's only child. He lives with us full time after a year long battle. My fiance is in the military and just after he got back from Afghanistan in late 2012 we learned his sons BM was really into drugs and was pregnant with her 4th child. After calling children services numerous times for many different horrible things they did not a damn thing, and after trying to take the BM to court well let lets just say trying to prove a mother unfit even if she clearly is, is almost impossible in Ohio. well one bitter sweet February morning we had a knock at our door from a cop and social worker from children services my heart instantly fell and I had started thinking please let him (my ss) be ok, well as the story goes BM gave birth to her 4th child the night before in a car and the baby came out addicted to cocaine. My SS was the his grandmas (the BM mother) and had been staying there secretly for the last month. We had an emergency hearing that morning and they gave temporary custody to the grandma because children services did not know my fiance and I because we have never been in the "system" we were to have an inhome expection and countless interviews within the next week for us toget emergency custody and we jumped through every hoop and even took countless drug test due t. Grandma saying my fiance and I were on drugs even though he is a major in the army and I am an insurance agent who has never been in trouble in my whole life. We finally got temporary custody and grandmas fought us and got temporary sibling rights due to she has BM other children. BM had supervised visits once a week which she showed up to only 1. So after that was all said and done we went for full legal custody of my SS as so did the grandmother! It was the most horrible next couple of months as my SS went to grandmas court ordered every other weekend. The grandma would let the kids be around there mom which was court ordered the BM was to have no contact and grandma would tell my SS my fiance and I were the reason he couldnt see his mom and that we took him from his sisters it was just horrible, my poor SS in all of this he is literally the sweetest boy in the world and didnt want to hurt grandma, or his dads feelings he was so torn. We finally after a year long battle and days where we thought we could lose him won full legal custody and no court ordered visits with grandma and no contact what so ever with BM. Its so sad that my finace had to come home from war only to fight a grandma for custody of his son. Fathers do not have equal rights as mothers do its so sad to see especially when the father wants to be in his childs life. Im so greatful for how things turned out because my SS was a mommy's boy and for him to lose her and come out on top with being the straight A athletic boy he is i couldnt be any prouder of him and as our relationship grows I hope one day he can realize what really happened and how much his father and I truly love him, and maybe one day if he wants to he will call me mom!