Well, after having DH told by BM to give up his visitation weekend for a birthday party. We tried to get her to give us the details so that we could just show up early and take sd since it was so important.

Of course she did not reply to any of my DHs texts or emails after he told her he would not give up his entire weekend for the birthday party.

SO we got on the road and drove from VA (4 1/2 hours) to NC getting there at 6pm. Called and hoped that we could have at least taken SD ourselves to the party or pick her up for the visitation as stated in the court order.

She lies to DH stating there is traffic and she would not be able to meet him until 8pm, then hung up. Okay we know were not supposed to be there until 630 but what was she thinking.

We were there - there was no traffic. She was not at her home - she actually drove to the birthday party which was almost 30 minutes away. So we drove to the original meeting point which was 1.5 hours back towards VA.... and waited until after 8pm.

In the interest of not fussing in front of SD - we just picked her up - and left. She then immediately starts telling us of how the birthday party was and how her mom said on the telephone to some one that over her dead body would she allow DH to take her to the birthday party just so it would make him look good.

We didn't discuss it with SD. We just asked her about the party and she seemed to have had a great time. It was at a place called girl's world.

BUT DH did text BM and tell her that was just horrible to say something like that and to have us wait 2.5 hours when DH could have taken her and gotten back on the road. She proceeds to tell him that she didnt lie about traffic, that she was there waiting on I-95 for 3+ hours, and that he was the lier as always.

We just laughed at that one. Hell what else could we do. We went to dinner and sat and talked until she showed up. I don't know what else we can do to keep the peace with her. BUT we do have a court case coming up for custody in July and we are praying hard to help keep our peace until that time.

After lying and making us wait until after 8pm to pick sd up - she then texts DH at 7 am to tell him she wants him on the road by 930 am so she can get daughter at 11. We both just laughed. He sent her back a text stating the court order states 4 pm on Sundays. AND although he always meets her early so they are not driving and tired on Sunday - He decided not to do it.

We went to church and enjoyed our "family sunday dinner" and then got on the road. When we pulled up - she was furious. BUT hey, we missed out on that time on Friday due to not getting back home until after sd was asleep.

GEEZ court can not get here soon enough.