My problem right now
My problem right now is that my youngest step child Hates me. Ok so I know kids say mean thing when they are mad but she has started writing it on the wall and her bed post and I don't know what to do. I mean is there anyone out there that has this problem. i have tried everything I can think of. From talking it out to putting her on restrictions. I know that a lot of people will say that it is because she wants her Mom and Dad back together but she was a baby when they split. So I don't know what to do.
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Unfortunately, it does not matter how old the child was and it
has nothing to do with it anyway. You are stepmom, therefore, it is easy for them to take it all out on you and you are the evil one. It is just the fact of being a stepparent.
Honestly, I would ignore it
YSD has said some stuff, and when I don't react, she loses interest. When you try talking to her or when you put her on restriction, it's just feeding in to her need for attention. YSD was also a baby when FH and BM divorced, but it really does not matter. But again, she is very much a drama queen and craves the attention, but I won't give it to her. Just walk in, read what she wrote, laugh, and walk out. If you show it doesn't bother, and/or just ignore it, there's not much more she can do.
I think
H should do something.
My Skids
although more SD than SS would right really mean and evil things about having an evil SM and wishing that they had so-and-sos mom for a SM and all of that crap. It hurt but I never addressed it. I kept doing what I knew to be right and yes that meant disciplining (grounding) and it eventually worked itself out. There were always comments made to DH about how mean I was but alot of it came from ideas that BM had put in their heads. BM had them believing that it was a parents job to do a kids bidding and get them WHATEVER they wanted YET BM did not do this herself. She only encouraged the poor behavior and disrespect. As SD matured she saw it differently though.
Anyone can take the easy way out and blame others. BUT it takes a a person of character to take a look at one's self and actions and own responsibility for their part. ~ ME ~ }:-P
Where is the anger stemming
Where is the anger stemming from? BM do anything? H do anything? Abandonment issues? Frustration with school? Try to figure out what the real problem is, cause it most likely isn't you, and start there.
I know how that is
when I make her mad I get : I wish my daddy would have never married you, I wish you would leave, I hate you. Over and over again I just don't know what to do sometimes
I would cut out the dry wall with her comments on it and let
let her live in a room with a patch of open wall studs. If she carves on or defaces the bed, take it out of her room.
Let her see the consequences of her behavior.
Little turds need some discipline.
Regardless of what she wrote the issue is her abuse of the home and furnishings. Take the pleasantness away and she will conform to appropriate behavior.
Or send her to Military School. It worked for my Dad, Me, My Brother and it is doing a great job of keeping my SS's head pulled out of his butt.
Just my thoughts of course.
Best regards,