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I am so mad right now I'm shaking!

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Submitted by doglover on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 4:20pm

Oh so that makes you mother of the year? You fucking loser!

I want to text that to bm so bad right now but I won't give her the satisfaction!

I'm been lurking for a long time. I've made a couple blogs in the past. It really helps me to read everyone's troubles because I know I'm not alone.

Long long story short. BM set sd18 against me big time! They both hate me for no reason other than I'm the sm. Well my sd has had trouble for the last year. The latest? She's in jail. Yup, eluding an officer. Felony. Bail is $3500. She can rot there at least for a week until her next hearing.

BM just left DH a vm asking when the next court date is. I sent her a text that said "He doesn't want to talk to you. Find out her court date yourself." She texted back "Fuck you both! I'll never tell him anything again, notice she called me not him." Yeah, she called bm from jail. Why? I'll never know. BM has done NOTHING for her. It's DH and I who have ALWAYS been there for her. So I want to text her so bad but I won't.

She just sent me another text. "You have nothing to fucking do with this, loose (she can't even spell!) my number you bitch! Funny he's the one who called me this morning."

Ooohhhh I'm so mad I'm shaking. I want to beat the shit out of her!

Man, I hate my life right now!

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Submitted by October8 on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 4:23pm

WHy did she text you?

One can only hope!

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Submitted by doglover on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 4:24pm

BM left DH a voice mail. I sent her a text saying don't call him anymore. She has since left me 2 text messages. She's psycho!

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Submitted by doglover on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 4:27pm

I know what I'm going through is NOTHING compared to what you're going through. I hope you're doing ok....

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Submitted by doglover on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 4:23pm

for the swearing. I only get this way when I'm really really mad. I am so mad right now I'm seeing red!

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Submitted by doglover on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 4:38pm

Under normal circumstances it would be better to talk rather than text but she's not normal. I will do neither.

SD is so not normal you wouldn't even believe it if I told you. I feel like I'm living a Jerry Springer episode. Truly. It's that sick and twisted. Yes, this is her first offense but she has numerous speeding tickets, she was going to lose her license very soon and she still has her probationary license so every ticket after the 1st is double points. She's screwed.

I hope she will learn something. DH and I have been married 5 years. In that time I have tried to help her, encourage her, etc. It has gotten me no where. I am done. Finished. I told DH this numerous times.

How am I supposed to stay married to someone when I can't stand their kid? How is this marriage supposed to work? I don't think either one of us can just shut that part of our lives off.

Man...how depressing....

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Submitted by KittyKat on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 4:35pm

I'm certainly not offended by the language. I know I've let loose (see, I spelled it right!! Smile here many times. Hope you
feel better, that's the point of "venting".

Hang in there, take the high road, and DO NOT lower yourself to her pettiness. She's a loser.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt

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Submitted by doglover on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 4:41pm

Thanks KK. I love your saying "No one can make you feel inferior without our consent". It's along the lines of no one can make you angry unless you let them. No one can hurt you unless you let them. It just always seems like I let them...no matter how hard I try.

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Submitted by SRS177 on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 4:40pm

You can feel better knowing that at least DH is on your side, as you said he doesn't want to talk to her and the reason she is texting and b*tching at you is because she knows that you have the upper hand because DH is backing you not her. That is p*ssing her off so of course she will take it out on you and thinks she can back you off.

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Submitted by doglover on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 4:43pm

DH has always been on my side. No matter what I still get so pissed off. I HATE that she has that control over me. I would die if she knew that.

How are we supposed to not let that happen?

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Submitted by Nymh on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 6:09pm

Let your DH tell her himself. Of course she's going to flip out if you step in and tell her "how it is".

Good luck hun. I know from experience how much it sucks to deal with a psycho BM.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

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Submitted by TinaKay on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 6:24pm

have a sd ( almost 20) who is much the same,

and she may be calling bio dad from jail too or her mother will.
I sure hope his cell phone isn't charged up if it does happen
because they do not have our home number anymore ( had to have it changed ).

Already discussed with dh what we would do if this happens and he says if she goes to jail, there is nothing he can do about it and her best friend can bail her out ( her mother)

and sd or bio mom
aren't stupid enough to call and ask me because they know
the answer will be:

hahahaha
and "get lost"......... so far, dh has been good about not letting his daughter run hin over and make a fool out of him.

so far.......

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Submitted by doglover on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 6:28pm

She called us crying but cell phones don't accept collect calls and we don't have a home phone. The only other way is for us to pre-buy minutes. To call from jail is $3.50 plus $.59/minute-even though it's local.

My DH is THIS close to bailing her out. I don't know what I will do if he does that. I really don't. We tried having her live here and it didn't work. She came after me and grabbed me by my throat. I didn't do anything because she was 17 but now that she's 18-well that's a different story. Doesn't matter. I won't have her in my house. You attack me, you are NOT welcome back.

Ugh...what a mess. DH is so sad. I can't be there for him. I just can't. What kind of marriage is this???

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Submitted by TinaKay on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 9:11pm

he is saying to her that her behavior has no consequences FOR HER.... that he will take them on. Really gives the kid the wrong message.

She does the crime, she should do the time.
Just like anyone else should.

If he bails her out, he is telling her by his actions, she can have rights to do whatever she pleases, without the responsibility
or consequences and she will learn nothing...

only grow and grow worse.

Its a bad idea to bail her out, more so if she is really guilty of the crime she is being accused of.

I agree with you if she does not respect you and respectful of you ( I mean common courtesy and being civil acting ), she should not enter your home. better let your husband know that now... because if he wants to be with her while she is disrespecting you, you should make it very clear....
your not tolerating it and going to be taken advatnge of or shoved to the side. He can go get an apartment or another house and set it up for him and his daughter if he wants.
Thats what I told my husband and after he thought about it for a few minutes, I was never asked she step foot back into our home, the little crazy witch that she is.

Far as all this email and texting, DH has a good plan which has worked for us...
IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE. He says : whats not said, says it all.
The amount of BS calls from his ex has drastically decreased but it did take 2 years. I guess she finally gave up.