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The worst Easter ever...

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Submitted by non_mom23 on Sun, 04/12/2009 - 9:16am

Well to everyone else Happy Easter...
My H went to a bachelor party last night. Need I say more about how he's acting today?? He is the type of person who doesn't know when to stop. I made sure the SD8 had everything all set for Easter b/c he did nothing. Anyway, I offered to go pick him up so he can have a few drinks...well a few turned into a few 6 packs. He knows that today is Easter, he knows the SD is very excited b/c she still believes in the Easter bunny. Well he was so obliterated last night and was the worst *sshole I've ever seen him be. Today he slept in made me and SD cry and yelled at us. He just woke up and it's 10am. He completely missed out on his own daughter's Easter, but who was there to do everything the stepmom, me. He's on the couch right now sleeping and snapped at SD when she wanted to show him something. I don't think I've ever disliked someone so much in my whole life. I'm telling him he can't come to my families and I'm not sure if I'm going to his. I hate him so much right now. He's immature, for a 30 yr old, and he's inconsiderate, irresponsible and every other irr or imm word you can think of. I hope no one else is dealing with a complete and utter useless human being today...Happy Easter

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Sunflower's picture

Submitted by Sunflower on Sun, 04/12/2009 - 9:38am

That is really terrible!! How could he ruin his own daughters easter. You should go see your family and leave his butt behind! If you have a good relationship w/ SD take her with you.I feel so bad for you both.No one should be treated that way on any day of the year.I think from now on dont offer to be his DD that way H will control his drinking (hopefully). Again I am sorry and I truly hope the day gets better for you and your SD.
BB

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Submitted by Sunflower on Sun, 04/12/2009 - 9:41am

Also maybe you should let your in-laws know what a jerk he was to their grandchild before he goes over there and paints you as the bad guy.

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Submitted by non_mom23 on Sun, 04/12/2009 - 9:43am

What's so ridiculous is while he was sleeping I brought SD over to in laws so she could see them before BM gets her. They know...I'm glad and they'll know why I didn't show up, though I said I probably will. I'm so discouraged. Not sure what I did to deserve this??

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Submitted by Sunflower on Sun, 04/12/2009 - 9:55am

Unfortunately women seem to seek out men with the same characteristic's as their dad. I know for most of us thats not a great thing. Yes there is hope but you will need to talk about it and remember that for someone to change they have to want to do it themselves.If you really mean that much to him he will get his $*** together and stop the drinking! If he dosent and you are constantly put through this crap leave!! I know its easier said than done but no one deserves that.You especially,You have already went through alot already (I am sure) with your dad. I also came from a home with an alcoholic.I do think that the only way to make things better is to talk about it on a day when things are calm. If that dosent work try a councelor. If he is not willing to get help for you then he should definetly do it for his little girl!! All in all if he just keeps getting worse get out of there! You are worth more than you know and there is always someone out there who has a greater appreciation of that.

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Submitted by Sunflower on Sun, 04/12/2009 - 10:02am

You never in a million years did anything to deserve this!! This is not your fault.It is his. He has a problem. He is an adult and he should know to get himself some help.You are being treated like crap for going above and beyond your job as a SM.That is unacceptable! You deserve better than this. I really mean it! I dont know you but I do know that you dont deserve this!

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 04/12/2009 - 10:57am

I could just marry everybody and fix the Step world! And, what's wrong with a whole bunch of smart, beautiful caring ladies waiting on me hand and foot? Smile But, I suppose my lovely bride would have a problem with it so it is not an option. (Darn!) JJOC.

I am not like this and most men are not.

Idiots!

Happy Easter anyway ladies.

Best regards,

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Submitted by toomuchstresshere on Sun, 04/12/2009 - 11:09am

I am so sorry your DH is acting like that! Maybe it will get better once he "sleeps" it off ;). My easter was ruined too not be DH but ss7.....big fuc**ng mouth!

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Submitted by Tprettysmile on Sun, 04/12/2009 - 3:03pm

I had a terrible Easter and weekend because I just wanted some me and DH time due to the fact that I had my nephews from Sunday to Wednesday and then he turned around and got SD4 a day early and I am at my wits end!!! I was even pissed in church and that's sad.

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Submitted by melis070179 on Sun, 04/12/2009 - 8:38pm

We threw my dad & stepmom a surprise 25th anniversary party last night. At 9am my DH took the kids home because my family convinced me to stay out and party with them. I got home at 1am and had to wake up at 7am for church. I was so tired and pretty cranky by the end of church. I came home and took a nap Sad I did the Easter egg hunt with the kids this morning though and after my nap we went to my dad's for a bar-b-que...even if he went out last night and was completely miserable this morning, he should've gotten up and sucked it up for his kid! I had too!

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