At H's latest session he was moaning about poor sd not having a mother, excuse me but he left her and she gave up custody. She hasn't seen sd in 15yrs, he's always saying how glad he is that she's not around. Recently he has been telling sd that maybe they should find her but never acting on it. He has told me 1: that she was dead. 2: that she had been deported. 3: that she is hiding from the law. So I hired someone to find out which it was. I got the report yesterday and it's not pretty. She had been in and out of jail several times for drugs and DUIs until 8yrs ago when she had a DUI accident where she hit another car and killed someone. The PI is trying to find out if she is in prison or was deported. I gave H the report at his session so the dr could deal with the fall out. I thought he would decide not to tell sd but he told her as soon as we got home. This explains a lot to me, we are always missing cigarettes and beer and wine. I kept telling H that sd was taking this stuff but not his widdle baby. The BM was also picked up for shoplifting and pickpocketing. So I guess it is nature after all with a whole lot of nurture thrown in. His ex was a violent person and tried to kill him numerous times but he never pressed charges. Not only was she physically abusive she was verbally abusive to everyone she was around. Does this sound familiar??