SK's pictures at work.......
This weekend while I was at the store I bought frames to put up bd's pic's at work. I do not have any pic's of sd's at my work but quite a few pics of my bd's. My dh made a comment, too bad I didn't have more springs pics from sd's school ( he only buys enough to hang up at home no extras and I buy the whole pack) then we could get frames for them so you could put them up at work. This might sound bad but I don't really want to do this, I don't want to look at their (sd's) pics at work and think of bm, youngest sd looks exactly like bm.
I was wondering how many of you have pics of sk's at your work. I do not mind having them at home that is our home and they are a part of it. But this is my work and at times it is a place for me to get away from all of that, even though it is my job it is a break from the bullsh*t and I feel that if I have sk's pics up then that will be a constant reminder of the crap that I go through being a sm and having to deal with bm. My dh doesn't have my pic or my bd's pic's up at work and has not asked to have some to take to work. Why should I have some of sk's when he does not have any of my kids.
Am I wrong for not wanting to have sk's pic's at work?
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I do
I have a picture right on the side of my monitor of SD's and my DH at our wedding. I also have one of me and my BFF. Everyone is smiling and happy and that makes me happy.
Of course, No one forced me to put the pic up, nor do I hate my skids. Are they annoying sometimes, yes, but I love them all the same. And their smiling faces in that picture remind me of why I put up with all the crap from BM.
I do not hate my sd's, I
I do not hate my sd's, I care about them very much. I know it is not their fault who their bm is. It is just very hard to get close to them because bm has such a big hold over them and they will lie or what ever to make bm happy so I am offstandish with them, I don't really interact with them alot unless it is started by them. We went through some horrible things last summer and I was accused of abuse on the kids and it was not true and proven to be not true and so I am very cautious about how I interact with them. I guess I am just trying to protect myself from bm's spew of hatefulness. But there are times I get so frustrated knowing I have to have contact with them because when there is contact with sk's then there is contact with bm and the less contact with bm the happier our home is.
Stop making people a priority in your life that only make you an option in theirs! author unknown
sorry...
I didn't necessarily mean you hated your skids. I just meant that I didn't. I apologize if it came across that way.
But I can understand how you feel about staring at the BM. SD12 looks a lot like her BM, but much prettier than the old beast, lol.
That is ok...just seems like
That is ok...just seems like the bm and sk's are a touchy subject at our home. My sd's are good kids they just are so twisted by bm that it is hard to deal with sometimes. I know alot of it isn't their fault. I do have a ss too, but he does not even come to our home and is very hateful and distant to dh. I absolutely cannot stand my ss, especially because he is so horrible to dh.
Stop making people a priority in your life that only make you an option in theirs! author unknown
You are not wrong.. its a
You are not wrong.. its a personal choice whose pictures you hang in your private area. I do have pics of the skids, but then again, my first baby isnt due til May 3rd.. I am sure once I have him, that his pic will replace theirs. I have several of them up.. so some will have to come down to make room for my baby.
Currently at home, their pics are plastered throughout the house.. I KID YOU NOT!!!
oh.. and if he doesnt have
oh.. and if he doesnt have any of you and yours.. then you dont need to hang any at your work unless you want to.
You are not wrong
I don't have any pictures of Blabb on my desk... nor do I want to have them. She's a pain in the butt, and I don't want to be reminded of her everywhere I turn.
Don't feel bad, hon.
I have pics of all three
of my skids around my monitor...its a daily reminder of the choice I made when I married my DH and reminds me why I drive three hours round trip to work every day (I have a great job).....don't get me wrong there are times I want to turn them face down when I am angry...its NEVER perfect....but for me, they represent the job I took on when I got married.....of course I have no biokids, so I am sure its much easier for me than for u :)....no choice is ever really wrong when it comes to stuff like this....its just a choice....
"Sooner or later, everyone's bill comes due"
I have pics too
One of all of us at a theme park and individulas of ss and bd. I don't have one of sd because I never got one. I guess you just have to fake it until you make it.
I do.
I have a frame with a pic of my husband, and stuck into it on either side are school pics of my two skids. But:
- I like them both.
- I don't have kids of my own, so these pics are my entire family.
- I'm sure that if I did have kids, my H would have pix of them at his work, too. If yours doesn't, then you should point that out, and ask him why.
BB
- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)
does DH ever see your desk at work?
Keep a framed pic of SD's in the drawer of your desk. When DH is coming by, set the pic on your desk as if it sits there all the time. }:)
Or perhaps put a teeny tiny photo of them BEHIND your computer monitor.
I keep pics of the skids in my wallet. That way I can look at them when I want to and ignore them when I'm upset about something BM did/said.
SK pics
I wouldn't do it. Sometimes work is the only place we have to "get away" from it all. If you are having some issues with SD and you see her pic on your desk...it could just make for a really bad day at work. So, if you are having a hard time with SD, you could let it go in the time you were at work. That would not be possible if she is staring you in the face all day.
I did, until
SD totally stabbed us in the back several times and we found out about it. I took down her pic from my desk and it hasn't gone back up.
If DH thinks you should have their pics on your desk, he should have pics of you and your bkids on his desk too - its only fair!
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin