Cheating BM with No License
Ok, so last night I once again tried to play peacemaker for the benefit of the children involved. It turned out to be a waste of my time. So the redhead of me came out today.
I told BM how I truly felt about her sorry butt. I made sure to mention how she doesn't pay child support, doesn't help out with anything financial or medical with the kids and that the only thing she's focused on is her love life.
She complained that I had no business to know about her suspended drivers license and that she doesn't see the problem.
So today we turned her in to the Sheriff's department for an outstanding warrant she has. We told them right where to go to get her, hopefully they did their job.
We called the state troopers to find out why she wasn't arrested last Monday when she was pulled over with a suspended drivers license. They have started an investigation.
We called Child Support to request a recalculation of the amount she should pay. And they are filing contempt charges on her by the end of the week giving her 30 days to pay at least $1000 towards her arrearages or serve 30 days in jail.
And to answer those who wanted to know how I knew she was cheating - she told me. She has told me much about her relationship with this other man but I kept it to myself since it didn't affect the children til now of course.
And next on our list is contempt for not paying medical and possibly comtempt for driving the kids without a license and insurance. (There is a court order stating she must have both)
So after almost 4 years of staying quiet and keeping the peace I think I just went crazy.
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wow!
Way to stick it to her! I personally don't blame you one bit! She needs to be held accountable for her actions! Although I can see why you wanted to tell her H about her cheating, I don't think that part is necessarily helpful to your ultimate goal. But at least her H isn't in the dark anymore
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
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girls gotta do
what a girls gotta do.
I dont think what you did was so wrong, and really she shouldnt be driving anyway!
If I knew my neighbor or whomever was driven w/o a license and was doing illegal things I would probably turn them in too.
sometimes it feels good to be vindicated.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
I hope
that all works out the way you want it to, be careful that kind of stuff doesn't come back and reflect badly on you (or rather dad) in the family court scenario.....sometimes making trouble for the other side is seen as worse as one not living up to their obligations.
"The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change, So that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger, but in wisdom, understanding, and love." -Jennifer Edwards
Good for you!
With any luck, she'll find herself in behind bars for a while. And while she's there, maybe, just maybe she'll stop to think for one ever so brief moment about what she's doing to her kids... yeah right - probably not!
Those kids and your DH are lucky to have someone who loves and cares for them as much as you do.
Lulubelle,
I'm glad you did what you had to in terms of the suspended license. As you mentioned in a previous post, you strongly suspected that her license was originally suspended for DUI- which means there's a STRONG CHANCE she's putting her children at risk every time she puts them in the car. So KUDOS to you for keeping them safe!
"Of course things worked out nicely for Carol Brady...she had a live-in maid and Mike's first wife was DEAD!"